I'm Engaged 2 1 2012

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Wed Jun 08, 2011 12:14 pm

Here's a few updates

Got the Groomsmen/bridemaids/maid of honor

Doin engagement pics next month/ engagement party will take place sometime in spring.

Next month Nikki will be visiting (while I juggle work).

In the process of doin marriage research (includin marriage class)

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Wed Jun 15, 2011 10:32 am

I had to come in and say hey and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

This is so huge! What an exciting event! I'm very happy for you, she sounds great! I'd love to meet someone who likes Disney as I do in Disney World, haha! And you two look cute together!

I don't know if you need a church marriage class, because churches may have different, particular views on marriage that you might not really have to follow, you need to do what works for you. But as long as you do what makes you happy, a guess learning tips from a class couldn't hurt.

What was her first fiance's religion problem? You don't have to tell me if it's private.

Why did you feel you missed out on the first 2 years? Because you weren't in contact very much? How long were you without contact?

Oh, this is all so exciting and happy though!

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Wed Jun 15, 2011 7:59 pm

Lost Contract: Our personal lives ate up most of our spare time, she ended up movin up in the company and I was on the verge of get'tin a job.

Ex: From what she told me she had a good chemistry yet down the road he started bein abit.. regilously confusin, among other unexpectd annoyin habits which caused her to break it off.

We're put'tin the weddin on hold for now and we're gon'na do a domestic living and see how the other reacts to various daily life (I.E payin bills, work, living habbits) we're still doin the engagment pics though.

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Wed Jun 15, 2011 8:43 pm

Living together may be a good idea, Mason, but there's been some research on it.

Statistics showed that couples that lived together before they were engaged had less successful marriages than couples that lived together after they were engaged, or only after they were married. But couples that lived together after they were engaged, which is what you are doing...does look to be fine, maybe even a good idea.

But because marriage is very different from life together unmarried, just know that it won't be the same, and don't live together unmarried for too long. Also, talking about all you want in life, like money, children, where to live, career goals, and all that is good, though you may have already known to talk about it.

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Wed Jun 15, 2011 9:05 pm

Our plan is that in Fall/Winter I'll move in to our house that we found, it's 20 mins away from work/home. I'll be on my own while she moves her stuff in at various times along with stayin the night here/there too. We believe that it'd be best to sleep in the same bulidin but different rooms, it'll make the marriage "love" defintly worth the wait.

Her church requires us to take a marraige class since we're get'tin married there, again I'm fine with takin a class, it'll prepare me bet'ter.

Hopin this move will make the relationship stronger, we made it this far. Next month will be our 5th aniv.

disneyboy20022 · Post by **disneyboy20022** » Wed Jun 15, 2011 9:20 pm

Here's a good movie that I enjoyed that makes me think of this

But on a more serious note....Love is not easy...relationships can be hard and most of the times have hard times....but when there comes a time you find the one....and treasure every moment with her....there's more to life than stuff and money....True Love....I quit playing Yu-gi-oh and I've not been playing video games much because I don't enjoy them....in fact I popped the question to my girlfriend that we have been together for over a year at a midnight showing of Thor...and she said yes. The wedding date is not set...but it won't be for 5 years until she's done with college. She might not be coming back to the town I live in to go to college, depends on if she gets accepted somewhere else but we still love each other no matter what. She's going to get a computer and we can talk that way or a webcam....I trust in god no matter what...even if I am unsure of his decision I trust that decision. Because of my fiance I've come closer to Christ in my faith. I love going to church and not for the worship songs....I like hearing the sermons....I even got baptized. I love her and she's gone over the summer and she might not be back until December depending on the college she goes to....but we both will be faithful to each other. Now you might ask is it scary....and i'd answer hell yeah.....but it's worth every moment for the scary parts there are even more parts of just being together....she also has Asperger Syndrome the autism same as me....we have our struggles but we work through them....I miss her so much...I hope she comes back here....you truly don't value things you have until the are gone or gone and coming back in the fall....

Good Luck with your engagement..remember if you ever get into an argument put a stop sign up and ask yourself if whatever you are arguing about is it worth feuding over....or even splitting up...and a majority of the time it's a no...even if you don't realize it at first....

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Wed Jun 15, 2011 9:27 pm

I remember seein that film, Robin was fricken hillarious, I'll have to track it down for blu ray and have Nikki/I watch it *chuckles* also on a serious note....

Nikki's been doin research on autism/asperger syndrome (God Bless Her), she wanted to get a bet'ter understanding of me, we feel the pain of bein away from each other, it's been 2 months (April) since we last saw each other but we vowed to make this work. Like you DisneyBoy, I was brought closer to Him, thanks in part of my faith growing stronger after the lil car accident (don't ask, too long to write out) and for Nikki giving me an inspirational kick in the pants, we seperated alil bit after my visit cause of the small accident, her finals comin up, get'tin the car fixed (all done now) and that break lasted 2 weeks. It was cruical for our relationship cause niether of us had seen the other react to possible death situations/trauma. Nikki understood that we should've handled the accident together but her mind was still shaken/full from the accident.

Now we're back on track yet goin at a medium pace.

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Thu Jun 16, 2011 11:15 am

Mason, you are considering this to be your 5th anniversry coming up? So you mean you consider the first time you and her met to be the start of your romantic relationship? Usually people count the start of their romantic relationship as when they started dating.

And congratulations to Disneyboy!!! Wow, another engagement! I don't get why she has to be away for the Summer, though!

disneyboy20022 · Post by **disneyboy20022** » Thu Jun 16, 2011 12:44 pm

Disney Duster wrote:Mason, you are considering this to be your 5th anniversry coming up? So you mean you consider the first time you and her met to be the start of your romantic relationship? Usually people count the start of their romantic relationship as when they started dating.

And congratulations to Disneyboy!!! Wow, another engagement! I don't get why she has to be away for the Summer, though!

She lives in Wisconsin with her family and goes back to see them....my sister introduced us when I met she was going to a college a few hours away from here...although I am 100% certain that wasn't my sister's intentions at all....

I've told my sister she should be a matchmaker....she said to me oh shut up Michael...

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Thu Jun 16, 2011 2:15 pm

I don't see why she can't visit you for some of the Summer!

disneyboy20022 · Post by **disneyboy20022** » Thu Jun 16, 2011 2:21 pm

Disney Duster wrote:I don't see why she can't visit you for some of the Summer!

Gas and money issues....

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Thu Jun 16, 2011 3:45 pm

July is our 5 aniv. of us datin (new 1st/only record for me) we started datin on March 12th 2011.

Congrats DisneyBoy, hope it works out for ya, like I said Nikki and I met thru Disney World (how lucky we are) and I'm goin thru the same thing of visitations, she lives in AZ and I'm here in OR, I can't see her walk at her college graduation next month due to work (though we did some rough planning), in the end we decided that she'd come visit for 7 days next month

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 10:41 am

Oh, you meant your 5 month anniversary. I thought you were saying it was your 5 year anniversary!

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 10:48 am

No 5 months man lol its all good. We're both doin our best to make this relationship work and I know when Nikki's here next month it;ll make it stronger.

I respect her decsion for us bein roomates for now then get married, as I said before if we go with bein roomates 1st and see each other reacting to the same issues (semi high bill, lil neghiborhood disruption) then it'll be more special for us get'tin married

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 1:06 pm

Yea it sounds good.

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 5:00 pm

Well we recieved e-mail bout the pre marriage class and it turns out that it won't work with her current schedule, unless she gets this new job as a K-3rd grade teacher (hopefuly) then we can take the class.

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 9:20 pm

Oh, man, that is a little halt! I don't know if you really need the class, but I do hope you can take it. I would think the class would run every so often and not be too long so that you could take it at any time that was better for you, though.

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 9:45 pm

Its monthy (sorta) and the time won't change accordin to Nikki, but we have a back up plan, court house which could work but she has the weddin dress already.

I personaly think the pre marriage class could help us, she's a great person, defintly enjoys road trips, beach (completly earned me a bonus point) and has good taste in films/books (strike one for bein a twilight fan)

Disney Duster · Post by **Disney Duster** » Tue Jun 21, 2011 3:21 pm

Well, I think you should marry in a church if both of you are religious and really want to. Remember, you can hold off the wedding as long as you want, it is your day! A lot of people finish school before they get married anyway, they feel it's best.

Mason_Ireton · Post by **Mason_Ireton** » Fri Jun 24, 2011 11:42 am

Thanks for the input, Nikki will wrap up school next Spring, yesterday she told me she had to cancel her trip due to schedule conflicts, as i said, today she has her minor ear surgery, then back to work/Church, after that it's Graduation, so we agreed to try and have me come for a visit if my July work schedule allows it.

In other news, she decided to move early ahead of schedule, which helps me fairly bet'ter for shippin some of my books/dvds to the new house, but I need to wait until the house is finalized. We're goin for a 4 bedroom house, the master bedroom would be mine (till we're married), Room 2/3 would be Nikki/guestroom and the 4th room will belong to our roomate that we're takin in. Down payment for the house is $200 (not bad) and the rent is $699 but all 3 of us will pitch in on the rent, so if Nikki,Roomate or I fall behind on the rent then the other 2 would help till the next rent pay.

Can anybody suggest Roomate rules? we got the basics down, her friend's not much of a party person (Nikki had a bad experience with her Disney Roomates),

Basic Rules:

Do your part of Chores

Respect Each Other

Help pay rent

No drugs/alchol

Keep the house informed on various activities (I.E Apointments, small vacations)

Again I'm open to Roomate Rules

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