What's Wrong With Me?!

[DisneyFreak5282]

This post isn't supposed to seem like I'm complaining or anything, but I just don't know what to do.

Lately, people have been acting differently towards me - or so it seems. I'm not sure what it is, but it just seems like EVERYBODY has started to do it at once. I just feel like people have been acting so ridiculously rude to me (a few people in particular), and I really don't know what to do. Some people have been acting like complete jerks, and even some good friends have been acting as if our friendships meant nothing, and they've just completely shut me out of their lives, and I really have no clue why. I don't spread rumors/gossip, I'm nice and outgoing to everyone, but it's just really frustrating. I can't wait until college so I can start all over again and make new friends who will actually appreciate me and won't pull all this crap. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I should do or how I should go about handling all of this? I really didn't wanna do or say anything without hearing some peoples' opinion first.

[slave2moonlight]

Eh, this happens from time to time. I've kinda felt this lately, but not with my closest friends. Don't necessarily rely on things to change in college. What you have to do is forge and maintain friendships with people who are extremely nice (probably a bit shy) and have a lot of things in common with you, and don't worry if that means you only have one or two friends. That's usually how it is, and the others are just fair weather friends anyway. And even those best friends will be rude once in a while.

Of course, someone may have spread a bad rumor about you or something. You can be the nicest person in the world, and still some creep will not like you and try to mess you up. You just have to deal with that situation now and then. In most of the jobs I've worked in, there's been one big jerk who decided they didn't like me for no good reason, and they'll do whatever they can to make you look bad. Don't mean to make you paranoid though. It's possible you're just in a paranoid mood lately, in fact. That happens from time to time too.

[DaveWadding]

It's High School. Ignore it...who cares? If they treat you like that then they weren't really your friends anyways.

[xxhplinkxx]

Call me crazy, but what happened to the good old days of confrontation? It doesn't have to be a bad one, just ask one of those close friends if you could talk to them and then just simply ask them about the situation.

It's the same advice when my friends are in similar situations. JUST ASK!

[blackcauldron85]

Maybe you could ask one of your friends who isn't being rude to either fill you in on any rumors he or she may have heard about you, or even he or she could ask one of the people being rude why that person is being rude to you.

I agree with everyone else here, though- it is high school, sometimes people are just mean. I mean, obviously "it is high school" isn't the advice you need, since you're currently in high school!

And the thing about college is, there are more people. For example, my graduating class in high school had 300 people...so let's say the school had 1200 kids in it. My college had about 49,000 students. Especially if you go to a large college, there *will* be people with the same interests as you have and there *will* be people who you could be best friends with. You may never come into contact with those people, though! In my 4 years of college (and 3 schools I went to), I never made any lasting friendships. Sure, I have some friends on Facebook who I was friendly with during a semester, since we shared a class, and occassionally I'll write to one of them saying hi, but in general, it can be harder to make friends with people in college, since you really only see them once or twice a week for an hour or so. That's why you're supposed to join clubs, I guess! I was in a club my first semester of college, but then I moved to Florida...and I never joined any more clubs...bad Amy.

But, yeah, talking with someone who's not being mean to you right now might be your best bet.

[xxhplinkxx]

Maybe you could ask one of your friends who isn't being rude to either fill you in on any rumors he or she may have heard about you, or even he or she could ask one of the people being rude why that person is being rude to you.

I disagree. Like I said in my previous post, just cut the middle man out and go straight to the source.

[blackcauldron85]

Maybe you could ask one of your friends who isn't being rude to either fill you in on any rumors he or she may have heard about you, or even he or she could ask one of the people being rude why that person is being rude to you.

I disagree. Like I said in my previous post, just cut the middle man out and go straight to the source.

I think it really depends on how comfortable Ryan feels. If he's already being treated poorly, he may not want to be treated even more rudely than he already is...if he confronts one of the people, he or she could be horrible to him and he'll feel even worse than he does now.

I definitely will confront people if I'm mad enough...if it were me, I'd do as I had said (ask a friend to find out what's up) and then, if I felt it necessary, talk to the rude person.

But, to each his or her own.

[Jack Skellington]

I went through this recently, just when High School ended, my best friend came back from Indiana, to visit his hometown. We used to be so close, we've met in Spain during a school trip, and we've been to Paris, and he was super friendly the whole time.

But when he came back, he hardly could look at me in the eye when I'm talking to him, at first I thought maybe it's the weed that they give him in Indiana or something, but then I realised that maybe our whole friendship is just fake (at least to him). I was stupid enough to insist on paying for the room in Paris but he probably really wanted that in the first place.
He only called about three times after he went to Indiana, he wanted me to ask our travel agency for a discount rate on his trip back home, that never happened, not unless he wanted a one-way ticket to Hell, then I might have seriously considered that.

I thought we were really good friends, after that I kind of lost faith on humanity for a while, that's when I started to feel that everyone just hates me, but then I met some really beautiful, good-hearted people at college which made me think otherwise.

The best advice I can give you, is adapt a "so-what" attitude, not only is it cool, it's really the best kind of lifestyle that one can have, and yeah I can guarantee you that you WILL make new friends at college.

[xxhplinkxx]

The best advice I can give you, is adapt a "so-what" attitude, not only is it cool, it's really the best kind of lifestyle that one can have, and yeah I can guarantee you that you WILL make new friends at college.

YES! This may come as a surprise to those of you on here that know me, but I've had that attitude since high school.

[DisneyFreak5282]

I disagree. Like I said in my previous post, just cut the middle man out and go straight to the source.

I think it really depends on how comfortable Ryan feels. If he's already being treated poorly, he may not want to be treated even more rudely than he already is...if he confronts one of the people, he or she could be horrible to him and he'll feel even worse than he does now.

I definitely will confront people if I'm mad enough...if it were me, I'd do as I had said (ask a friend to find out what's up) and then, if I felt it necessary, talk to the rude person.

But, to each his or her own.

I really do like both of your ideas, and those two ideas were pretty much what I was trying to decide between. I think I'm going to go with what Amy suggested, only because I'm afraid that if I try to talk to one of the people that I'm "suspicious" of, then they will think I don't trust them, and that could open a whole 'nother can of worms. (Wow, did I really just say that?!)

The best advice I can give you, is adapt a "so-what" attitude, not only is it cool, it's really the best kind of lifestyle that one can have, and yeah I can guarantee you that you WILL make new friends at college.

YES! This may come as a surprise to those of you on here that know me, but I've had that attitude since high school.

It's kind of funny, because I have had a "so what" attitude with some of the people I've been fed up with lately, and some of them either get the hint and start acting normally towards me, and some of them have actually backed off (which I really don't mind) . Though I'm not gonna go all crazy on everyone and start acting like Darlene from Roseanne (because I like people...for the most part!)

[xxhplinkxx]

I like people too... generally.


I just don't care if they like me.

[DisneyFreak5282]

I like people too... generally.


I just don't care if they like me.

Haha, usually that's how I feel, but it's just been bothering me lately