The Universe has stomped on me thread. Rant or clear the air

[Disney Duster]

That all is great news!

[thedisneyspirit]

Wow, I'm so sorry about all of that thedisneyspirit. You don't deserve any of that. People here at least seem to like you a lot, I bet you are very liked on here. I hope you can sleep, find friends, find romance, and get better grades. I'll pray for you.

Thank you so much Duster! You're so kind and sweet for caring.

Well, yeah. Lately I've been sleeping a little bit better, and I'm taking myself more serious when it comes to studies and work. I'm hoping this keeps going on.

[bradhig]

I was gonna post a thread that I believed the princess in voltron was ripped off a disney princess ,but I got a thread deleted for saying something was ripped off at the voltron place and wonder if it's okay here.

[disneyboy20022]

I was gonna post a thread that I believed the princess in voltron was ripped off a disney princess ,but I got a thread deleted for saying something was ripped off at the voltron place and wonder if it's okay here.

I can say with certainty that you won't be banned for voicing your opinions about Voltron in the Voltron thread you created.

[bradhig]

I was gonna post a thread that I believed the princess in voltron was ripped off a disney princess ,but I got a thread deleted for saying something was ripped off at the voltron place and wonder if it's okay here.

I can say with certainty that you won't be banned for voicing your opinions about Voltron in the Voltron thread you created.

I was going to start a thread about whether or not anime is ripping off disney. Putting it in the Voltron thread won't help cause no one ever replies to it.

They deleted my thread behind my back cause I said I though that an anime company ripped off a design from one of their own works and used it to make a design for voltron. That ban hurt me more then any other ban that I got.

One moderator claimed they were trying to run the place like the Official Star Trek message board run by paramount where she claimed such subjects were not allowed and posters got eaten alive. Has anyone been to the Star Trek forum at paramount's site?

[Disney Duster]

Good to here it thedisneyspirit! That ryhms. I hope it keeps going, too, You can do it.

Bradhig, it would be best to make the post about the Voltron Disney princess rip-off in the Voltron thread you made, but if you make a thread about it the moderators will not ban you, but they will probably merge it into your Voltron thread later.

[bradhig]

Good to here it thedisneyspirit! That ryhms. I hope it keeps going, too, You can do it.

Bradhig, it would be best to make the post about the Voltron Disney princess rip-off in the Voltron thread you made, but if you make a thread about it the moderators will not ban you, but they will probably merge it into your Voltron thread later.

Already did. You don't know how rough it is on that voltron forum. Even I scratched my head when they said I couldn't say ripped off. Why they wouldn't let me say it I don't have a clue.

read this blog entry. This should show how bad things are and why the forum will probably die sooner rather then later.

http://lotorsincline.wordpress.com/2012 ... ahahahaaa/

[bradhig]

I just lost my job. The diner I worked at was closed yesterday when I headed to work with a piece of paper saying they must close. No one told me anything.

That voltron thread I made was useless no one answered it. I want to talk about voltron soo bad.

[Disney Duster]

Oh man I'm sorry you lost your job! That's yet another bad thing added to how you already have been feeling bad! That's terrible. I'll pray for you.

So you made the Voltron rip-off thread at the Voltron web site you go to? I thought you were going to make a thread about it here. Although I doubt anyone here would reply either because I don't know if anyone here is into Voltron.

[bradhig]

Oh man I'm sorry you lost your job! That's yet another bad thing added to how you already have been feeling bad! That's terrible. I'll pray for you.

So you made the Voltron rip-off thread at the Voltron web site you go to? I thought you were going to make a thread about it here. Although I doubt anyone here would reply either because I don't know if anyone here is into Voltron.

I made the thread in the movies ,music , and tv section.

[Cruella]

My therapist is a little under an hour away, and I see her about twice a month. I always get lost and I'm always late, which always cuts into our time.

[disneyboy20022]

Apparently I currenty am suffering from something known as Carpal Tunnel Syndrome in my right wrist. I saw my primary doctor and he came to that conclusion. I did the exercises he gave me, but they don't seem to help. Also he gave me a couple arm braces which did work before, however with the past couple weeks they aren't working. He put me on some steroids for 7 days and my pain was gone, however now it's back worse than ever. He's out of the office this week, so I'll just have to deal with it for now

The big thing is, that in general the way I distract pain is going on the computer and typing such as posting here for example and doing survey's to get gift cards (currently I'm 50 points away from getting two $25 Amazon Gift Card which I'm going to use for this new mega Harry Potter Set coming out in February) Another thing is video games, however I feel it could have something to do with me typing on the computer. Sadly that distraction is probably what caused my pain and it really frustrates me. It always seems to be one thing after another in my life. However I do find comfort that it's not as bad as my herniated disc was a year ago.

Also another thing that's been bugging me is about Disney and Saving. Mr Banks. My local AMC Theater was rejected from getting Saving Mr. Banks on the basis that they had too many Disney movies. Either my mom or my dad and I will be going an hour away to see it. It's just Idiotic Disney would give that reason. Ugh

[dvdjunkie]

Carpal Tunnel Syndrome is not a funny thing to deal with. It is partly caused by not having the right type of ergonomic keyboard for your computer and also playing your PS3 games that require little or no right thumb use. The other muscles are used and the ones that don't get used begin to atrophy.

The best way, besides surgery, to correct CTS is to make sure you have an ergonomic keyboard, one that fits the general nature of your hand position when typing. And another help is to limit the time you play your video games.

I once suffered from CTS and my doctor is one who is not quick with the knife, and he gave me some exercises and and hand-brace that looks like a glove with no fingers, but plenty of support in the wrist. The exercises are something that you need to apply vigorously and do at the same time of every day. And the next thing is to make sure you have an ergonomic keyboard for your computer, they take a little time to get used to, but when you get used to it, you can fly through your typing and you realize just how much you were hurting yourself.

Michael, look into this, and see if your doctor can get you a 'wrist band support' while you learn more about your hand position on your computer keyboard.

[disneyboy20022]

Carpal Tunnel Syndrome is not a funny thing to deal with. It is partly caused by not having the right type of ergonomic keyboard for your computer and also playing your PS3 games that require little or no right thumb use. The other muscles are used and the ones that don't get used begin to atrophy.

The best way, besides surgery, to correct CTS is to make sure you have an ergonomic keyboard, one that fits the general nature of your hand position when typing. And another help is to limit the time you play your video games.

I once suffered from CTS and my doctor is one who is not quick with the knife, and he gave me some exercises and and hand-brace that looks like a glove with no fingers, but plenty of support in the wrist. The exercises are something that you need to apply vigorously and do at the same time of every day. And the next thing is to make sure you have an ergonomic keyboard for your computer, they take a little time to get used to, but when you get used to it, you can fly through your typing and you realize just how much you were hurting yourself.

Michael, look into this, and see if your doctor can get you a 'wrist band support' while you learn more about your hand position on your computer keyboard.

He already gave me a wrist band support and when I type on my laptop, my hands already rest on the laptop itself. Me and my doctor will discuss what should be the next step. For the first time I have a primary doctor who treats me as an equal rather than a patient with an ID tag.

[thelittleursula]

I kind of feel like my friends are fake and not really real, they're just pretending to be nice. One friend doesn't really seem to care, till she's upset, then I cheer her up and then all of a sudden after I said that she's intelligent or brave or pretty, she really cares then.

Another we speak now and again, but I have a feeling that it's just out of empathy because she knows how much I've been used, manipulated, mentally screwed with and more in the past.

My trust issues were at the fullest limit last year, I wasn't going to trust anybody ever again, but then I started to met more people, and they started nice.... only to know bump into this wall.

2014 is starting to feel like poop and it hasn't really even started yet. I don't know what to do. I know that you gain and loose friends, but not always " yeah sorry, I was just using you for whatever outcome I wanted all along "

Boyfriends, friends, girlfriends even Family members like my Dad

Can't seem to trust them.

It's like I'm in a world where everybody is Hans.

[blackcauldron85]

I miss my family and friends and everything I left behind, and most days I find myself crying. I don't want to emotionally depend on people, and I get very anxious and nervious at some social situations but at the same time I feel horrible if alone. I feel like a failure because of my low grades, but I don't tell them to anyone due to a life of parents always disappointed in my test scores.

*hug* I don't necessary have advice, but try and take solice in the fact that you are not alone with these types of feelings. It can be so hard to find a balance- you don't want to have to rely on others, but at the same time, you have to. I so get that. Sometimes it can take one little thing that you're good at to bring a little more joy to your life. Something that you can do alone that, at least for a brief moment, makes you happy. For me, cooking is an outlet- I can do it alone, and it's creating my own thing, and I get to eat it, and even share it if I want. I also like to get lost in good books- it's another thing that I can do by myself, but it's like spending time with friends, in a way. It is very hard to make real friends sometimes. I used to have a good bunch of friends back through high school, but when I moved away, it was hard to find "real" friends, real lasting friends. Just please don't give up hope. Sometimes it can be freeing to do things you like, alone, but in a public setting. If you have a dog, for example, go to a dog park alone. You might be able to interact with other people, asking about their dogs...it may not be making friends (although it could lead to that), but it's being in a safe social setting without any pressure (to make friends, to make anything other than small talk, while doing something you enjoy). If you like art, maybe go to a gallery. If you like cooking, maybe go to a cooking class.

I've been single for a long while, and while I do want at times to pursue a romance, I feel like it'll be a distraction in my life and it'll just be painful. I've become bitter with love, and for now only seek amusement in sex.

It's important not to lose yourself. It's so easy when in relationships to push aside the things you love in order to spend time with that person and do what they enjoy. As long as you're safe, being with people who won't physically hurt you, and you know, wrapping areas up, there's nothing necessary wrong with that last statement, also as long as your head is in the right place. Casual sex can be just that, not having an emotional attachment. As someone who has become so bitter and untrusting, I get that. Don't lose hope that someday you'll meet someone who you share a special connection with, but don't put so much pressure on yourself to do so.

You need to take care of yourself first. Like if a plane is going down, the parent must put their air mask on before their child's. You can't be of much use to others if you aren't much use to yourself. (I'm saying these words as much to me as I am to you.) If you're in school because you want to be to improve your life, take it as that. Believe me, my parents have always been strict about my grades, and I didn't tell them right away when I failed grad school. (I didn't tell them right away when I was going through a divorce, too.) It's so hard when you want to please your parents, but it can be smothering, too.

Try and focus on yourself every day doing something that makes you happy. Everything in your life can be spiraling out of control it seems, but try to take 30 minutes or so a day to do something you enjoy, whether it's having a dessert, reading a chapter in a book, watching your favorite show, singing in the shower, taking a walk, whatever. You deserve *you* time to be happy.

Also some other great news, I've lost 7 pounds within the past couple months. Shirts that fit my 10 years ago fit me again

That's so wonderful!!! I'm really proud of you!

thelittleursula, it can be so hard when you think you meet someone you can trust, who really cares, to just find out that they were friends with you for the wrong reasons. I had a bunch of those a few years ago. Ultimately, as lonely as you might be without them, it can be toxic to stay "friends" with them. If a friendship is causing you emotional pain and you can't trust the person, it's not a real friendship and should be let go. I'm not an expert in making friends anymore, since I have lost friends. Dating for me is easier, someone to spend a short time with and then move on. But I give you the same advice I just gave to thedisneyspirit: try and focus on yourself, try going to social events (dog park, art gallery, cooking class, etc.) and at least have fun for yourself, no pressure to make friends, but it could happen. Even just having a pleasant conversation, and not seeing that person again, can slowly build up a confidence, can give you hope that not everyone out there is an a-hole.

My rant/what I need advice on, I briefly touched upon (in this thread?) a few months ago. I've been living with my boyfriend since April; I had a roommate before then, was working 3 part-time jobs, struggling with money, and since he said I could stay in the spare bedroom if we break up, until I can find my own place, I moved in. Things have been so up and down, we've almost broken up so many times.

I can't afford a place of my own. I can't afford even to have a roommate. I was in grad school for social work, so I know social workers, and I texted one a week ago, and she gave me a website on cheap housing; she also said, though, that there's a shortage of housing options (re: many wait lists) in this area for low-income people. I don't have a family of my own, just my dog, so it may be hard to get some kind of federal assistance.

My boyfriend wants to work on us, he thinks I'm "the one" for him, but we just don't get along. He punched *another* hole in the wall today- it had been a few months, I guess it was time. It's been such an emotionally-hard over-a-year (failing grad school, being in this relationship). My college degree has been rubbish at getting a job, and I'm making, after taxes, $7 an hour; I make $12,000 a year roughly. I didn't bust my butt in school to live this life; I should have not gone to college.

I'm grateful I went to college, and I learned things, and these days it's the college grads getting jobs high school grads used to get. I can't afford to live; I understand having to rely on other people. I am thinking of going back to school to get an Associate's degree in Pharmacy Technology; I'm not smart enough to pass math & science classes, or else I would have went to school for Nutrition right out of high school, but Pharmacy Technology would let me work in the growing medical field while making a better living than I am now. My dad even said if I continue working full-time and not lose my health benefits, he'll pay for my summer classes, since financial aid won't. But what about where to live? Financial aid, when I was in grad school, was pretty comporable to what I earn now in my job, so it's not like I can just get an apartment on that income. And community colleges don't have dorm rooms, and I have my dog. I don't know what to do. I've lost my spirit, both working in my crappy job (although now I have a better handle on what I do there, and I'm taking more pride in the work I'm doing) and being in this relationship.

I'm so lost and scared. When I emailed my dad about going back to school and a little about my relationship...when your daughter says that she and her boyfriend fight, shouldn't a dad ask if she's okay? Not "I'm not going to tell you what to do in your relationships?"

Also, I just had a breast biopsy; a lump I've had the past few months was mostly removed, and I'll find out Tuesday the results. It's probably not cancer, but with my family history, it's been weighing on me for all these months.

[Walter]

After reading the last 2 pages on "fake friends", I felt it was time for me to post in this thread. Even if it will be all over the place, as I need to "clear the air".

I don't bother having friends these days, as it has become too much of a chore to maintain them. The final straw for me, to make a long story short, was when I had a friend who promised to go on a trip with me. But whenever I gave a bunch of dates throughout the summer to go, he would shoot every one down. It got to a point where I just said "forget it" and I went by myself. Combine that, with doing a favor for him, after he pestered me about it so much, and it ended up with me getting into an accident. No one was hurt, but there was that mess with the insurance. So I saw him backing out of the trip, as adding insult to injury. I had it at that point, as before that, I realized that almost all of my friends were fake when I used to be part of a certain group, but that is another story.

It can be tough being alone, as I try not to have that high school mentality of trying to always have friends, so I don't look even more pathetic in front of others. The only people I would hang out with, are people I meet during my travels, some of which, I still keep in contact through Facebook. But when not traveling, the only people I do see, are just family members. It's tough to do things alone, especially when it comes to going to the movies, baseball games, and theme parks, plus that stigma of being single at my age.

But still, I find it a lot more liberating, as I finally get to do things that I want to do, whenever, wherever. And not miss out on things, which is what often happens when being with friends, who usually don't care to do the things that I enjoy very much. And when they do go along, I can tell that they are not having much, if any, fun at all.

blackcauldron85, sorry to hear what you are currently going through. Hope things get better for you.

[Disney Duster]

I hope things get better for you disneyboy, and I'm glad you finally have a doctor who treats you better!

Aw, sorry to hear that blackcauldron! It's sad all you are going through. Your boyfriend punching walls sounds a little scary, but as long as he's never hurt you I guess that's ok, but I would probably leave him. I think your dad thought your boyfriend wasn't hurting you and that you were ok, but yes, he should have asked if you were ok, I guess he didn't know. I hope you can go back to college and get a pharmacy technology degree, and find a place to live. Must be really hard. Hugs!

Walter, I'm sorry about all your friends doing that to you. That really sucks. You sound like a great guy who should be making lots of friends. Well, they are just not special enough to be your friends. You will make real good friends someday!

Okay, now for me to clear the air. I am sorry, everyone. I am sorry to all the people on UD that I have hurt or ruined the happiness of. When I first came here, I was all happy, Cinderella was coming for the first time to DVD, and I would get to talk about that and all my favorite Disney things with people! But then I saw people saying other movies were better than Cinderella, and saying bad things about it, and that, coupled with Film Freak and other places giving harshly critical reviews of my favorite movies, made me want to play too, so I beat down on other people's movies, tearing through what was good about them like other reviewers seemed to do, which was really bad. I was especially bad to what is considered the best Disney movie of all, Beauty and the Beast. Anything that was way popular I would beat down on. And I'm so sorry for it now. I'm even sorry for beating down on The Little Mermaid III and saying it was the truth. I still think it's a bad movie with bad animation but it's the way I did it that was bad. I'm sorry for beating down on people's favorite characters, too. And I'm sorry about the whole Disney Essence thing too. I'm not sorry I believed in a Disney essence, because I still do and I think it's good to believe the magic and spirit of Disney is in all their new things, and I will now choose to believe it, at least for some things, but I'm sorry I said all those other Disney movies didn't have it.

And I'm saying sorry to all those people I hurt in any other ways. Maybe I'm not sorry about being a little bitchy to people who were to me, lol, but I am sorry for any hurt I caused to anyone here. I wish all the people I have hurt could be here to hear this, but sadly many people have come and gone here.

All this is coming from me now because of my depression. I got hit hard with it about what will come this summer be two years ago. My medicines have brought me out of the deeply saddening empty abyss I felt I was in, but I'm still pretty bad and will never be the same way again. I mean sometimes I'm even suicidy bad. But I would never off myself because I'm too scared of hell, or of no afterlife at all, or because despite my misery there's still things in life I can enjoy. My deepest sadness in life is not feeling like I have a soul, which began about 6 years ago on this very web site when I got into a debate about robots not feeling love because they don't have souls, I conversation I stupidly started because I didn't want people to like the Pixar movie Wall-E over Disney movies. Because of the guy I debated with using science to try and disprove a soul's existence, I tried to think scientifically and see if I could find my soul or figure out if it was all physical, checmical, sciency stuff, and I ended up thinking it was sciency stuff, and I analyized and tore apart my mind to leave what is now a kind of hell for me. Now I still firmly believe in God, and souls, and the afterlife, but it doesn't matter because I broke through what I thought was a soul and it's like I can feel life the same way I used too. It's terrible. I've been like this for a long time, but only now have I really spoken in depth about it here.

Well thanks for listening. UD, and the people here, are things in life I still can enjoy.

[thedisneyspirit]

Duster, I'm sorry for what you're going through. Sorry if I've ever bothered you about any of those things. You're a sweet and caring person, by the words of your posts, and depression is something that hits bad and when it does, it hurts a lot. Praying is good for one to feel relaxed and happier, and at least I find it a good form of comfort. The sadness and loneliness doesn't go away, but you relax for a few minutes.

[Disney Duster]

Thank you disneyspirit. I do pray and in the moments I do it makes me feel better. Your reply made me feel beter

I feel really bad for what is happening to you. No one should be treating you so badly! You sound like a nice, great person. And I think you should ask a doctor about your head and stomach, if there's not medicines for those pains you can take. I hope you feel real better really soon. Oh, by the way, remember that one time you suggested I was racist by saying Tangled's "lack of blackness works for" my favor? Can you take that back, since I'm not racist?