Please...please...PLEASE... let me get this off my chest.
I´ve talked about my friend before and I have to do it again. If just to get this load off me.
This is the friend that has this daughter that´s 27 years old and is a pain.
Well, this is what´s been going on lately.
...or let me tell you the story from the start.
Her daughter befriended this girl that turned out to be lesbian. Nothing the matter; but is a valid point to what I´m going to say later.
This girl wasn´t precisely the best thing around: she´s problematic, smokes, didn´t study...
This ended up rubbing off my friend´s daugther: she smokes, started talking like her (she´s a gypsy so they have this particular way of talking), liking the same stuff (and forgetting what she liked), stayed off up to late nights, starting developing a VERY negative personality and even left college.
That´s for starters.
Later on the daughter confessed to my firend that they were girlfriends. Something that she never saw coming since the daughter always liked boys.
Well...took a time to digest but she did.
As things kept going my friend had 2 of the worst fights ever with this girl: one time she made a whole spectacle in front of all her house and the last one ended in they alwost fighting.
So yes, not just some discussion.
Little by little her daughter started letting her in the house. Up until when she asked my friend to forgave her and my friend did.
The time kept going on and she would just go to the house freely, started staying up to sleep and now she basically lives there. She sleeps there, eats there and even takes showers there. So yeah...she lives there.
What does she do there? Just stay in the bedroom ALL day. And smokes even when my friend doesn´t like it.
...but what´s my friend response to all these? "What can I do?". She even askes her for the lighter and my friend tells her and don´t care.
Things have ended to the point where my friend lends them the car so they can do her business (selling fruits ilegally on the streets where even a police already had to deal with them). They don´t make the money to compensate. They just make around $50 a day where some of the money goes to the gas, the other to invest and the rest for them... so basically they make like $15.
And for that amount my friend doesn´t have a parking space since her friend has her car in there, my friend has to ask for her car since in her words when I asked her to take me some place "I don´t have the car." , and the car has several problems with the transmission and the fact that they always leave the car with less than a quarter of gas.
To make matters worse my friend tells me that she doesn´t feel comfortable around the house anymore, that hates the smoke impregnant in everything, and that doesn´t like the fact that she has to keep quiet to let them sleep late in the evening.
Besides EVERYTHING my friend keeps justifying all. And tells me that she´s not like me where I hold on to bad feelings and that I don´t forgive.
I see things this way and I want your opinions of all this.
1. The situation is just ABSURD. It´s like her house and car are not hers anymore since my friend is the one that has to deal with everything and not the other way around.
2. You can forgive...of course. But not forget. If you had a discussion with this person that almos ended up in fighting AND was the person responsible for your daughter´s change in behavior, smoking, leaving college and ended up selling fruits ilegally on the streets...would you allow that person to live in your house?
3. Is not that I hold on to bad feelings...could be at some extent. But what I do, that she doesn´t approve is that when someone does something not bad but awful to me I just don´t want to have ANYTHING to do with that person anymore.
Like what? Oh, just little things like my best friend flirting with my by then girlfriend, telling me in my face and being respoinsible for my chance to maybe even had serious relationship with her. Or this guy that attacked me in my house, left me with post traumatic stress to the point where I couldn´t finish my year of college and now I´m about to graduate in a carreer I don´t love and have to make my living with it for the rest of my life.
Little things that just don´t justify shutting those people off my life forever.
So again, share your thoughts. Please
My friend the never learning
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