I Have A Problem

[kenai3000]

For a while I've been feeling even more down than usual, and here's why:

You know that someone you looked up to, the one you could tell anything to, the one you call your best friend well what would happen if they did something to you that hurts you very badly. That's what happened to me. I was promised a trip to my home and it was something I looked very forward to as I was going to see friends I hadn't seen in years all was fine until boom I got told that I couldn't go because he lost his job. I understand that he couldn't help losing his job and all, but he shouldn't have lied to me about it. I had a feeling he knew he was losing his job when he was making the original plans with me and wanted to see how I'd react to it, and he got the reaction he wanted which was me being very happy and excited. When he told me that we got into a huge fight on Facebook as he knew that he had hurt my feelings, and I also felt that he was being insensitive to how I was feeling. After that happened I've had flashbacks to all the happy times we had and was heartbroken when I found out that my dream had been crushed. I mean we've talked since the fight, but it just feels awkward to me, so I don't know what I should do. I feel like I have wasted the last 3 years of my life in vain there were so many things I could have done then, and I feel just lost now.

[disneyboy20022]

For a while I've been feeling even more down than usual, and here's why:

You know that someone you looked up to, the one you could tell anything to, the one you call your best friend well what would happen if they did something to you that hurts you very badly. That's what happened to me. I was promised a trip to my home and it was something I looked very forward to as I was going to see friends I hadn't seen in years all was fine until boom I got told that I couldn't go because he lost his job. I understand that he couldn't help losing his job and all, but he shouldn't have lied to me about it. I had a feeling he knew he was losing his job when he was making the original plans with me and wanted to see how I'd react to it, and he got the reaction he wanted which was me being very happy and excited. When he told me that we got into a huge fight on Facebook as he knew that he had hurt my feelings, and I also felt that he was being insensitive to how I was feeling. After that happened I've had flashbacks to all the happy times we had and was heartbroken when I found out that my dream had been crushed. I mean we've talked since the fight, but it just feels awkward to me, so I don't know what I should do. I feel like I have wasted the last 3 years of my life in vain there were so many things I could have done then, and I feel just lost now.

My opinion...is to not break off all friendship with your friend....but for now hang on and see what happens in the next few weeks....let him contact you I suppose....maybe your friend just needs space...He's probably stressed about his losing his job and all...


Also if I may ask a question, Why can't you go see him anyway....I mean could you go see him and visit with him either way he lost his job or not..sorry im just a little confused on that part

[Elladorine]

Are you 100% sure he intended to maliciously lie to you? Are you certain it wasn't just hopeful thinking on his part that he'd be able to keep his job and carry out the plans?

Regardless, you're very upset and disappointed right now. Be sure to give yourself a little time to cool off so you can see things more objectively before making any rash decisions. If he appears insensitive it's possible he's feeling bad about the whole situation and is trying to play it down so he doesn't have to face any guilty feelings, or maybe he has other things to be upset about (like losing his job, which is probably a bigger deal to him than having to cancel plans with a friend).

Anyway, I've been through my share of hurt when it comes to friends. My only real advice is to give this some time before burning any bridges, do your best to see the situation through his eyes as well as your own, and be prepared to move on if things don't work out.

Good luck to you.

[yamiiguy]

To be honest I don't think he did anything wrong. Your just overanalysing imo.

[kenai3000]

For a while I've been feeling even more down than usual, and here's why:

You know that someone you looked up to, the one you could tell anything to, the one you call your best friend well what would happen if they did something to you that hurts you very badly. That's what happened to me. I was promised a trip to my home and it was something I looked very forward to as I was going to see friends I hadn't seen in years all was fine until boom I got told that I couldn't go because he lost his job. I understand that he couldn't help losing his job and all, but he shouldn't have lied to me about it. I had a feeling he knew he was losing his job when he was making the original plans with me and wanted to see how I'd react to it, and he got the reaction he wanted which was me being very happy and excited. When he told me that we got into a huge fight on Facebook as he knew that he had hurt my feelings, and I also felt that he was being insensitive to how I was feeling. After that happened I've had flashbacks to all the happy times we had and was heartbroken when I found out that my dream had been crushed. I mean we've talked since the fight, but it just feels awkward to me, so I don't know what I should do. I feel like I have wasted the last 3 years of my life in vain there were so many things I could have done then, and I feel just lost now.

My opinion...is to not break off all friendship with your friend....but for now hang on and see what happens in the next few weeks....let him contact you I suppose....maybe your friend just needs space...He's probably stressed about his losing his job and all...


Also if I may ask a question, Why can't you go see him anyway....I mean could you go see him and visit with him either way he lost his job or not..sorry im just a little confused on that part

He lives in Michigan while I live in Florida.