Siren wrote:Someone who's never been in love and never had their heart broken can't watch a movie and say "I understand.". The same as in real life, when a person goes through a trauma, like a close friend dying, a terminal illness diagnosis, a rape, etc, and someone says, "I understand" and yet never went through what they did, so they can't understand.
I have to slightly disagree on this. I agree that a person can't FULLY understand what a person is going through until they have felt it for themselves. However, you CAN still have an clear understanding of it, especially if you are very attached to that person.
For example, I've never been in love nor have been in a relationship. However, I've been in situations in which my friends and family have suffered greatly and have told me their feelings. Again, I don't understand the PAIN they are feeling because that's something you can't share. However, I understand why they are suffering and keep it in my mind when I get into a relationship.
The best example I have is something that happened between my parents a few years back. Its very painful for me to talk about it, but I will say this; their pain became my own and have marked forever how I envision a married relationship should be.
Another example is that of my best friend. He was deep in love with this girl, who was my friend as well. Both shared similar attitudes, train of thoughts and personalities and to an extend loved each other. But their relationship was constantly on and off. In other words, they would be dating each other for a couple of months, break up, go back again. Each time they did they would be hurt even more because they knew that it would never work out yet felt this strong attraction towards each other. In my friend's case he felt very paranoid and insecure, yet couldn't stop thinking of her, even when he tried.
I didn't understand their feelings because its something that was felt deep within their souls. But I understood well enough to offer some empathy and personal thoughts. What I told my friend was that this is a relationship that would work out best as a friendship than a relationship and that they should sit down and finally decide what's best for them, FOR GOOD.
Luckily, my friend met another girl and they are both very happy. They are now living together and have been that way for a year now. My friend finally found someone that saw him as more than a friend, and that's makes me happy and I understand why my friend is so happy.
So again, I understand that feelings that too complex to be understood without feeling them first. But these feelings are also universal. Happiness, joy, sadness, pain, suffering, hope, enlightenment and even love are common in our souls. We feel them every day. So if a person ever said "I understand" to a person that is in pain he or she may not understand it 100% but they understand that being sad hurts and when you feel that way what that person needs is someone to cry to and be told that everything will be alright.
Disney Duster wrote:BTW EVERYBODY, mainly pap, I actually now invite you to use examples of Beauty and the Beast, Wall-E, or other films when discussing the love topic. I actually felt the love in Wall-E was well-crafted and I resonated with it, having felt in love myself. But robots feeling the same special, magical thing humans feel...ugh.
And why exclusively me? What exactly do you mean when you say that you welcome use to use Beauty and the Beast and Wall-E when discussing the love topic?