"Rain on other people's parade"? I'm sorry, but he is 100% right. There is nothing to be proud of if you have a (mental) disability. You can be proud that you have learned to live with it. You can be proud that you know how to handle it; or to even use it to your advantage. But like he said, simply being proud of the fact that you're an 'aspie', makes as much sense as saying "I'm proud that I'm a boy".ajmrowland wrote:because it's rare? because it makes me feel good? because pride has little to do with accomplishments? all of the above?
do you *like* raining on other peoples' parades?
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You guys are being way too picky. The whole "I'm proud of being [blank]" is just another expression for "I'm not ashamed to be [blank]." Considering how much society tends to hate people by labels, that's just a way to empower one's self.

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This is one that I just recently discovered.
People who bump their own threads because no one has responded to them in a while or ever. I mean, we all see each other's threads, if anyone wants to post, they will. How badly can one NEED attention on the forum?
To tag along with this... people who post the same thread in multiple forums because no one responded. I know this relates to a recent thread (and I'm not trying to attack that person), but it has happened a few time in the past and it hasn't been any less annoying.
People who bump their own threads because no one has responded to them in a while or ever. I mean, we all see each other's threads, if anyone wants to post, they will. How badly can one NEED attention on the forum?
To tag along with this... people who post the same thread in multiple forums because no one responded. I know this relates to a recent thread (and I'm not trying to attack that person), but it has happened a few time in the past and it hasn't been any less annoying.
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I realise that, but that wasn't what ajmrowland meant; he literally meant that he was proud of having it, which makes no sense.Disney's Divinity wrote:You guys are being way too picky. The whole "I'm proud of being [blank]" is just another expression for "I'm not ashamed to be [blank]." Considering how much society tends to hate people by labels, that's just a way to empower one's self.
@Goliath: Thank you for supporting me.

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- People who can't take non-verbal clues/hints
- People who don't know when the conversation has ended
- People who don't know when to get lost
- People who interrupt other people's conversations
- People who don't know when to leave two people alone so they can have a private talk
This has been inspired by some situations at my job.
- People who don't know when the conversation has ended
- People who don't know when to get lost
- People who interrupt other people's conversations
- People who don't know when to leave two people alone so they can have a private talk
This has been inspired by some situations at my job.
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it's not a disability. that's a misconception that blatantly ignores a lot of what being an aspie's about. i never said it was without challaenges.Goliath wrote:"Rain on other people's parade"? I'm sorry, but he is 100% right. There is nothing to be proud of if you have a (mental) disability. You can be proud that you have learned to live with it. You can be proud that you know how to handle it; or to even use it to your advantage. But like he said, simply being proud of the fact that you're an 'aspie', makes as much sense as saying "I'm proud that I'm a boy".ajmrowland wrote:because it's rare? because it makes me feel good? because pride has little to do with accomplishments? all of the above?
do you *like* raining on other peoples' parades?
and to think i once respected you.....

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a lot of human feelings make no sense.Dr Frankenollie wrote:I realise that, but that wasn't what ajmrowland meant; he literally meant that he was proud of having it, which makes no sense.Disney's Divinity wrote:You guys are being way too picky. The whole "I'm proud of being [blank]" is just another expression for "I'm not ashamed to be [blank]." Considering how much society tends to hate people by labels, that's just a way to empower one's self.
@Goliath: Thank you for supporting me.

Why would you stop respecting me? Because I made an error in calling it a disability? It was made out of ignorance, not out of malice. Or maybe you would prefer if I treated you differently *because* you have Aspergers? I don't think you would like *that*, would you? Look, my pet peeve is this: I have been nothing but nice to you ever since I came here and I haven't changed. Yet the past few months, you keep bitching about me, when I did nothing wrong to you, and I've had it up to here with you. There. how's that for a pet peeve?ajmrowland wrote:it's not a disability. that's a misconception that blatantly ignores a lot of what being an aspie's about. i never said it was without challaenges.
and to think i once respected you.....
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ajmrowland wrote:it's not a disability. that's a misconception that blatantly ignores a lot of what being an aspie's about. i never said it was without challaenges.
Source: http://www.aspergertechnical.org.uk/ind ... icles.htmlAsperger syndrome is legally classed as a disability because people with Asperger Syndrome do not think and behave and function like neurotypical people who make up the majority of society.
Sorry, ajmrowland, it is a disability, and I would know, seeing as I have it (albeit rather mildly). And guess what: I'm not proud to have it.

- People who have lost the ability to appreciate the direct approach or may be too smug to use it.
- People who aren't quite willing to recognize that we don't all have the same communication skills.
- People who think they're naturally expert in measuring another person's worth.
- People who can't figure out where they can find privacy with another person.
- People who aren't quite willing to recognize that we don't all have the same communication skills.
- People who think they're naturally expert in measuring another person's worth.
- People who can't figure out where they can find privacy with another person.
Fantastic response! Couldn't have said it better myself.Disney's Divinity wrote:You guys are being way too picky. The whole "I'm proud of being [blank]" is just another expression for "I'm not ashamed to be [blank]." Considering how much society tends to hate people by labels, that's just a way to empower one's self.
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it has social disabilities(that, i'm not proud of) but intellectual strengths. einstein ring a bell? and theres a lot of mainstream misinformation. so i guess i'm not totally proud, but looking at the glass as half-full.Dr Frankenollie wrote:ajmrowland wrote:it's not a disability. that's a misconception that blatantly ignores a lot of what being an aspie's about. i never said it was without challaenges.Source: http://www.aspergertechnical.org.uk/ind ... icles.htmlAsperger syndrome is legally classed as a disability because people with Asperger Syndrome do not think and behave and function like neurotypical people who make up the majority of society.
Sorry, ajmrowland, it is a disability, and I would know, seeing as I have it (albeit rather mildly). And guess what: I'm not proud to have it.
there's an aspergers awareness group on fb overflowing with different personal experiences and views. you should check them out.
ps i dont know if you got my pm or not.

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it has social disabilities(that, i'm not proud of) but intellectual strengths. einstein ring a bell? and theres a lot of mainstream misinformation. so i guess i'm not totally proud, but looking at the glass as half-full.Dr Frankenollie wrote:ajmrowland wrote:it's not a disability. that's a misconception that blatantly ignores a lot of what being an aspie's about. i never said it was without challaenges.Source: http://www.aspergertechnical.org.uk/ind ... icles.htmlAsperger syndrome is legally classed as a disability because people with Asperger Syndrome do not think and behave and function like neurotypical people who make up the majority of society.
Sorry, ajmrowland, it is a disability, and I would know, seeing as I have it (albeit rather mildly). And guess what: I'm not proud to have it.
there's an aspergers awareness group on fb overflowing with different personal experiences and views. you should check them out.
ps i dont know if you got my pm or not.
actually, i just realized that you may have been told growing up what you can't do and that aspergers is an all-around curse. I had a very different experience. I went to a private HS. It was a very positive learning environment, even with the occassional student with no self-confidence. rarely was i ever told i couldnt do something. The teacher taught me how to recognize my disabilities and with her help, i actually overcame a few. AS still offers problems for me and it always will. i'm realistic. BUT ican now recognize body language, and pay attention and my writing skills mor than improved. i was also constantly reminded a of the traits-strong personal interests, critical thinking skills, etc.) that she considers gifts.
also, some damn good literature classes.
so you may have "facts" but i have that rare case where personal experience disproves them and the results to prove it.
even that movie "Adam", while overly-cynical most of its runtime, backs up my point in the ending.
now to avoid getting any more OT, i'll move this discussion to the Asperger's thread.
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I feel petty saying this but I have to agree with your sentiments about the name Kendra. I was friends with a Kendra in high school who had absolutely no boundries.Jackoleen wrote:Thank you in advance for your replies, and if you can tell me about one Kendra, Layla, Leila, or Jane who defies my descriptions, feel free to do so.
I've never known a Layla but the song by Derek and the Dominos is one of my favorites
