The Universe has stomped on me thread. Rant or clear the air

[bradhig]

I don't know what to do anymore. I can't even communicate online with anyone. After saying NOOOOO not her peasent dress to a thread I get yelled at for it yet I see people making similar short responses all the time and they don't get people yelling in their faces telling them how to respond properly. I have severe problems with authority due to child abuse and go defensive anytime anyone raises their voice at me even online. I just can't socialize and don't wanna even try anymore.

[pap64]

I don't know what to do anymore. I can't even communicate online with anyone. After saying NOOOOO not her peasent dress to a thread I get yelled at for it yet I see people making similar short responses all the time and they don't get people yelling in their faces telling them how to respond properly. I have severe problems with authority due to child abuse and go defensive anytime anyone raises their voice at me even online. I just can't socialize and don't wanna even try anymore.

What I am about to say may come off as harsh, but I am trying to help you out.

I can't say I understand autism 100%, much less aspergers. And I get that cases end to differentiate from person to person. But from my understand, you are more than well aware of your issues, which means there is a small chance of being able to control it in significant ways. Yet, every time you encounter a problem, you blame others, you excuse yourself, use your condition as a crutch and then play the "pity me" card. That is the kind of attitude that people don't like, regardless the condition or regardless the person, because that is saying "I want to get my way because I know my condition will allow me to, and if I get in trouble because of it, I will back away and be pathetic so people pity me".

I have to agree with what Super Aurora told you on the other thread about how it is your attitude about it that is getting you banned from those forums, especially your refusal to change for the better because you keep going back to your condition as a crutch. I recall you calling mods being like the bad guys in Doctor Who because of trivial matters. That to me says you lack the maturity to face your problems head on and instead just whine and complain about it, playing the "pity me" card over and over again.

The key element is that you are well aware of what is going on. Most people aren't even aware of what they are doing, yet you seem to conveniently ignore it because of your desire to avoid any confrontation. You are not the only one in this forum with some sort of autism, yet a lot of them are aware of what they do and say and act accordingly. And don't use their condition as excuses, either. If you want to be accepted and not be "haunted" by mods, learn to realize that what you say matter, to not over-exaggerate the smallest issues, and to not act like the victim whenever something wrong happens.

Also, you bring up your abused childhood as yet another crutch. Here is the thing, EVERYONE on this green Earth of ours has experienced some sort of trauma. And yet, a lot of those people overcome those traumas because they realize that they are NOT what defines them, nor do they allow it from living their own lives. They do not use it as a way to get people to pity them. I get that it is not easy to get rid of emotional trauma and grow out of it. It takes years. BUT IT CAN HAPPEN. You can use that to learn a lesson, appreciate the greater things in life and educate people so they do not end up in the same situation.

Now what I am about to say is the harshest thing in this post of mine, but again, I do it for your greater good...

GROW UP.

That is what you need to do above all. Grow up. Stop using your aspergers and your tragic past as a crutch to get people to pity. Stop playing the role of the victim whenever you make a mistake or get people annoyed. Stop playing everyone else to be villains when they are trying to help you correct your problems. Stop letting your issues define who you are. You are nor your aspegers. You are not your troubled past. YOU ARE YOU. Seriously, grow up.

Until you wake up from your sweet dreams, you will continue to feel miserable, you will continue to be sad, you will continue to display yourself as being a super pathetic human being who couldn't let go, and you will continue to alienate people and be banned from forums. The choice is up to you, and you are well aware of what is going on. Once again... GROW UP and face your problems.

[pap64]

I don't know what to do anymore. I can't even communicate online with anyone. After saying NOOOOO not her peasent dress to a thread I get yelled at for it yet I see people making similar short responses all the time and they don't get people yelling in their faces telling them how to respond properly. I have severe problems with authority due to child abuse and go defensive anytime anyone raises their voice at me even online. I just can't socialize and don't wanna even try anymore.

What I am about to say may come off as harsh, but I am trying to help you out.

I can't say I understand autism 100%, much less aspergers. And I get that cases end to differentiate from person to person. But from my understand, you are more than well aware of your issues, which means there is a small chance of being able to control it in significant ways. Yet, every time you encounter a problem, you blame others, you excuse yourself, use your condition as a crutch and then play the "pity me" card. That is the kind of attitude that people don't like, regardless the condition or regardless the person, because that is saying "I want to get my way because I know my condition will allow me to, and if I get in trouble because of it, I will back away and be pathetic so people pity me".

I have to agree with what Super Aurora told you on the other thread about how it is your attitude about it that is getting you banned from those forums, especially your refusal to change for the better because you keep going back to your condition as a crutch. I recall you calling mods being like the bad guys in Doctor Who because of trivial matters. That to me says you lack the maturity to face your problems head on and instead just whine and complain about it, playing the "pity me" card over and over again.

The key element is that you are well aware of what is going on. Most people aren't even aware of what they are doing, yet you seem to conveniently ignore it because of your desire to avoid any confrontation. You are not the only one in this forum with some sort of autism, yet a lot of them are aware of what they do and say and act accordingly. And don't use their condition as excuses, either. If you want to be accepted and not be "haunted" by mods, learn to realize that what you say matter, to not over-exaggerate the smallest issues, and to not act like the victim whenever something wrong happens.

Also, you bring up your abused childhood as yet another crutch. Here is the thing, EVERYONE on this green Earth of ours has experienced some sort of trauma. And yet, a lot of those people overcome those traumas because they realize that they are NOT what defines them, nor do they allow it from living their own lives. They do not use it as a way to get people to pity them. I get that it is not easy to get rid of emotional trauma and grow out of it. It takes years. BUT IT CAN HAPPEN. You can use that to learn a lesson, appreciate the greater things in life and educate people so they do not end up in the same situation.

Now what I am about to say is the harshest thing in this post of mine, but again, I do it for your greater good...

GROW UP.

That is what you need to do above all. Grow up. Stop using your aspergers and your tragic past as a crutch to get people to pity. Stop playing the role of the victim whenever you make a mistake or get people annoyed. Stop playing everyone else to be villains when they are trying to help you correct your problems. Stop letting your issues define who you are. You are nor your aspegers. You are not your troubled past. YOU ARE YOU. Seriously, grow up.

Until you wake up from your sweet dreams, you will continue to feel miserable, you will continue to be sad, you will continue to display yourself as being a super pathetic human being who couldn't let go, and you will continue to alienate people and be banned from forums. The choice is up to you, and you are well aware of what is going on. Once again... GROW UP and face your problems.

[disneyboy20022]

I don't know what to do anymore. I can't even communicate online with anyone. After saying NOOOOO not her peasent dress to a thread I get yelled at for it yet I see people making similar short responses all the time and they don't get people yelling in their faces telling them how to respond properly. I have severe problems with authority due to child abuse and go defensive anytime anyone raises their voice at me even online. I just can't socialize and don't wanna even try anymore.

What I am about to say may come off as harsh, but I am trying to help you out.

I can't say I understand autism 100%, much less aspergers. And I get that cases end to differentiate from person to person. But from my understand, you are more than well aware of your issues, which means there is a small chance of being able to control it in significant ways. Yet, every time you encounter a problem, you blame others, you excuse yourself, use your condition as a crutch and then play the "pity me" card. That is the kind of attitude that people don't like, regardless the condition or regardless the person, because that is saying "I want to get my way because I know my condition will allow me to, and if I get in trouble because of it, I will back away and be pathetic so people pity me".

I have to agree with what Super Aurora told you on the other thread about how it is your attitude about it that is getting you banned from those forums, especially your refusal to change for the better because you keep going back to your condition as a crutch. I recall you calling mods being like the bad guys in Doctor Who because of trivial matters. That to me says you lack the maturity to face your problems head on and instead just whine and complain about it, playing the "pity me" card over and over again.

The key element is that you are well aware of what is going on. Most people aren't even aware of what they are doing, yet you seem to conveniently ignore it because of your desire to avoid any confrontation. You are not the only one in this forum with some sort of autism, yet a lot of them are aware of what they do and say and act accordingly. And don't use their condition as excuses, either. If you want to be accepted and not be "haunted" by mods, learn to realize that what you say matter, to not over-exaggerate the smallest issues, and to not act like the victim whenever something wrong happens.

Also, you bring up your abused childhood as yet another crutch. Here is the thing, EVERYONE on this green Earth of ours has experienced some sort of trauma. And yet, a lot of those people overcome those traumas because they realize that they are NOT what defines them, nor do they allow it from living their own lives. They do not use it as a way to get people to pity them. I get that it is not easy to get rid of emotional trauma and grow out of it. It takes years. BUT IT CAN HAPPEN. You can use that to learn a lesson, appreciate the greater things in life and educate people so they do not end up in the same situation.

Now what I am about to say is the harshest thing in this post of mine, but again, I do it for your greater good...

GROW UP.

That is what you need to do above all. Grow up. Stop using your aspergers and your tragic past as a crutch to get people to pity. Stop playing the role of the victim whenever you make a mistake or get people annoyed. Stop playing everyone else to be villains when they are trying to help you correct your problems. Stop letting your issues define who you are. You are nor your aspegers. You are not your troubled past. YOU ARE YOU. Seriously, grow up.

Until you wake up from your sweet dreams, you will continue to feel miserable, you will continue to be sad, you will continue to display yourself as being a super pathetic human being who couldn't let go, and you will continue to alienate people and be banned from forums. The choice is up to you, and you are well aware of what is going on. Once again... GROW UP and face your problems.

I would note that in order for him to get on this path I suggest he see a Psychiatrist and/or a Physiologist or a councilor. The Psychiatrist I see I've known for 10 years and he really gets me. One thing people with Aspergers lack are social skills and empathy. I was taken out of High School 10 years ago to be home schooled because every IEP (a special education parent teacher meeting of sorts) they would discuss if I farted on purpose or not because I have Crohn's Disease. Lovely school tax dollars at work

In home school, my mom went light on acadmeics because I was already very smart about those kind of things. Instead we worked on life skills including teaching me Empathy, double meanings, and social skills. Ironically I watched Jay Leno for Pragmatic Language Class (this was 2 years before I ended up on his show.) Also with Asperger's when we think of a memory that happened 10 years ago, we feel the same way the same hurt as if it's happening right now if it's a bad flashback. Sometimes good ones don't happen to people who don't have a good path or support system and don't have a doctor giving a treatment plan also. Because I was homeschooled and learned these things, I do feel guilt of what I do, when some people with Asperger's never feel wrong, but my mom hardwired it into my brain.

I had some friends of mine kinda mess with me that triggered a flashback, however I told myself they didn't mean to trigger it and they were my friends and I kept it together, however later I did tell one of the guys about it and he informed the others later about it. I was actually diagnosed in 1997 with Asperger's. I'm pretty sure I was the first one diagnosed through the school district I was in. You couldn't Google it because it didn't exist, and when you searched on Yahoo you got 2 results or 3 if you were lucky. So when I was growing up with it, not a lot of people knew what it was not understood and some people chose to assume they knew and they were wrong.

However Pap you're thinking is 100% right about it. I suggest Bradhig try to get a support system going with people not online and see a doctor. Also sometimes there are Psychiatrist that don't understand, but it's better now than it was in 1997. My parents took me to someone who did an interview with me and then came into the room and said that they knew what was wrong with me. They said that I had a mood disorder


You can't always blame your Asperger's Bradhig. That's another thing I learned. My Asperger's doesn't define me. as Pap said. I've also learned to use my talents for good and try to make the best of it.

[Disney's Divinity]

I'm sorry, but when somebody tells you to stop being "a little *****" just because you wanted a Disney princess in a different dress in a video game--there is something very wrong, but not sure if it's bradhig this time.

Moreover, I don't get why anyone feels the need to lecture someone like bradhig when nothing he's done on this forum has ever been malicious. Just ignore him if he bothers you that much. This site is open to children, too--are we going to curse them out when they don't type properly?

To bradhig: I agree with disneyboy that you should speak someone in real life about your issues if that's possible (I'm guessing parents/guardians would've already sent you in that direction if that was an option? Sometimes normal people can't afford psychiatrists.). I know you want to talk to other people about things that interest you, but the Internet is probably not the best place for you. It's hard enough to communicate with people in front of you, so what's lost in translation probably makes online discussion even more difficult. And, as you can see, people online often have even less patience/manners/understanding than those in real life.

[pap64]

I'm sorry, but when somebody tells you to stop being "a little *****" just because you wanted a Disney princess in a different dress in a video game--there is something very wrong, but not sure if it's bradhig this time.

Moreover, I don't get why anyone feels the need to lecture someone like bradhig when nothing he's done on this forum has ever been malicious. Just ignore him if he bothers you that much. This site is open to children, too--are we going to curse them out when they don't type properly?

The problem is more than just the comment on a dress. I have seen bradhiq's post for a while and I have been concerned at how tragic they are, and it concerns me that he tends to play the role of the victim, even if he did initiate the issue. I think he does need to understand that he should face the problems, especially if he created them, either by accident or on purpose. Shutting himself out, labeling everyone else to be the bad guys and hanging onto every issue that he has is NOT a healthy way to live, and will continue to do him damage if he doesn't seek a solution to it. He should also try to understand where people are coming from if they call out his posts. I get that some posts are very harsh, but there may also be the chance that he is overblowing some posts. Also, last I recall, he seems to be of legal age.

I second disneyboy's tip of seeking professional help as well if it is possible. Basically what I am getting at is that there IS always a solution to a problem, even if it doesn't completely erase it. Like I said, bradhig is not the only member of this board with aspergers and autism and they often are aware of what they do and say. I get that cases can be different based on the person, but I think there is hope for bradhiq in that he can improve.

[Super Aurora]

I'm sorry, but when somebody tells you to stop being "a little *****" just because you wanted a Disney princess in a different dress in a video game--there is something very wrong, but not sure if it's bradhig this time.

The difference is how he carries it out. Here he sounding like a obsessive manchild over simple gowns and not just on that thread but constantly too.It's no different from Wade02's or Disney Jedi's constant obsessive rant on "Bringing back 2-D"

There's opinion and then there's obnoxious excessive ranting. There is a huge difference.

[bradhig]

My dad used to yell and beat me over trivial matters. That's why I take them seriously. The word obsessed struck a nerve cause I was called that again and again. I don't start trouble intentionally I didn't know I couldn't respond like that cause no one enter tells me I can't until it's too late. I see people making similar responses here with simileys ,lols ,etc and they never get in trouble others do when they cry to the mods and can't handle something like simple response themselves. I reported a star wars thread to the mods when someone cussed me out and I didn't get any help nothing. I felt threatened when the mods came into that thread. Like I said eariler when anyone raises their voice at me I get defensive.

[disneyboy20022]

Like I said, bradhig is not the only member of this board with aspergers and autism and they often are aware of what they do and say. I get that cases can be different based on the person, but I think there is hope for bradhiq in that he can improve.

The thing with Asperger's is that it's not a cookie cutter diagnosis. Every Aspie so the term is called beats to their own beat of a drum. It's a really really complicated invisible line that exists when it comes to topics like this regarding Asperger's.

I've also noticed the less a support system there is early on, the more difficulty the Aspie has going forward. My main support always came from my mom and dad. At one point I did write a journal I was going to turn into a book on a Windows 3.1 computer. I need to hook that thing up and see if I can pull it off of there come to think of it. If you read it, you'd think some of my teachers were related to Mrs. Trunchbull from Matilda

EDIT: Also my dad has Asperger's and so does my girlfriend so it's never a dull moment at my house

[bradhig]

I also suffer from anxiety. My dad had anxiety. What happened to me on that voltron site was the most traumatic experience I have been through in recent times. Voltron was my favorite show as a child and now I can't talk about it
no one answered my thread in movies and tv. I don't play victim or play anything. I was upset someone tattled on me and someone raised their voice at me.

[Disney Duster]

Wow bradhig, I'm sorry you've been through so much abuse, including child abuse. That's terrible and so sad. I didn't think you were too obsessive about princess dresses, to me you just give your opinion of them. I think Super Aurora was too hard on you, but you were both just expressing your opinions. By the way, I, too, wish it was Aurora in her princess dress, but I think her peasant dress fits with the theme more of doing action and not pretty princess things.

[Sotiris]

After much deliberation, the moderating team has decided to issue the following message regarding the recent exchanges between bradhig and other members:

"Before this discussion gets out of hand, we need to remind everyone about the forum's code of conduct. Rule #18 clearly stipulates that "attacking or harassing fellow members will not be tolerated. Members must be courteous and respectful to each other. No direct or indirect personal attacks or insults of any kind will be allowed".

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and are free to express it as they wish, as long as they don't violate any forum rules. As it stands, some people in this thread have skirted around the rules, while others clearly violated them. Calling others "immature," "pathetic," "man-child, "a little bitch" is unacceptable. Calling out the moderators as unhelpful when they've clearly addressed problems only spreads distrust. We do what we can, but some members simply have to meet us halfway once in awhile.

We are not here to babysit anyone playing the victim card, nor will we immediately chastise those who may find more colorful ways to criticize them for it. We are here to ensure the forum has a friendly, open, and welcoming environment for any poster. The rest is down to the forum members. You all have the ability to simply take the high road, to offer advice or criticism in more helpful ways. Some of the juvenile remarks made from both parties do not help anyone at all. Unless these posts are in direct violation of forum rules, the best we can do is simply ask for ALL PARTIES to be more understanding of others. Or, quite simply, ignore them. It's best for everyone to follow the same advice and 'grow up'."

--The Moderating Team

[bradhig]

I can't write voltron fanfic anymore. After the ban it stopped going through my head and I had two good ideas for new stories.

[disneyboy20022]

I can't write voltron fanfic anymore. After the ban it stopped going through my head and I had two good ideas for new stories.

I'm not familiar with Voltron, however I think somehow you could find it in your and you should write it. Try not to let the past interfere with your hobbies and ultimately with yout future. That being said it's a lot easier said than done. I have trouble a lot with my past that gets in the way of my own future.

All my life it feels like once one battle is over, another crisis starts and there's never enough of a break for me to relax without the next thing in life. I think this video of Mr. Inedible sums out what I'm saying

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V4UVbAgZbUc

However a show called Once Upon a Time this past Sunday actually tackled the issue of feeling on guard after once they deal with one problem or threat, another one pops up and Emma can't find the good in between the next battle. However I need to do that more often than I do now. bradhig, I believe in you. I think if at some point you remember your fanfics for Voltron, I think you should write them. Hang in there bradhig, you'll be in my prayers

- Michael

[thedisneyspirit]

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[bradhig]

I can't write voltron fanfic anymore. After the ban it stopped going through my head and I had two good ideas for new stories.

I'm not familiar with Voltron, however I think somehow you could find it in your and you should write it. Try not to let the past interfere with your hobbies and ultimately with yout future. That being said it's a lot easier said than done. I have trouble a lot with my past that gets in the way of my own future.

All my life it feels like once one battle is over, another crisis starts and there's never enough of a break for me to relax without the next thing in life. I think this video of Mr. Inedible sums out what I'm saying

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V4UVbAgZbUc

However a show called Once Upon a Time this past Sunday actually tackled the issue of feeling on guard after once they deal with one problem or threat, another one pops up and Emma can't find the good in between the next battle. However I need to do that more often than I do now. bradhig, I believe in you. I think if at some point you remember your fanfics for Voltron, I think you should write them. Hang in there bradhig, you'll be in my prayers

- Michael

Guess there are many anime fans here.

[Super Aurora]

Guess there are many anime fans here.

I'm an anime fan. Though i'm very selective in which anime I like.

[disneyboy20022]

Well, now I'm lately feeling like crap too.

I'm making friends, but I feel like I'm being used. Like they only want my friendship for their own purposes. It's hard for me to mantain friends since I was small, and the last school I went to used to call me insults like "retard" or "down girl", "autistic shit" (and this was a school filled with "normal" kids and actual autistic kids, so this comment is hurtful). Especially since I don't have anything like autism or down syndrome.

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This here is the story of my life also. It seemed growing up the friends I had only liked me for my stuff and a few times stole. One of my friends was manipulating a guy who had some developmental issues who was a friend to both of us. In his manipulation, he made our friend think I was lying about him stealing stuff or something to that effect and he sided against me. I always wonder how he is and if there is a way to build a bridge back given all this took place about 8 to 9 years ago.

[Disney Duster]

Wow, I'm so sorry about all of that thedisneyspirit. You don't deserve any of that. People here at least seem to like you a lot, I bet you are very liked on here. I hope you can sleep, find friends, find romance, and get better grades. I'll pray for you.

I'm also sorry to hear that about you disneyboy and as I have been, I'll pray for you.

[disneyboy20022]

I'm also sorry to hear that about you disneyboy and as I have been, I'll pray for you.

It's okay. Things happen for reasons we don't know and sometimes they turn into a great future

I did some praying and decided to contact the friend who was being used by the other friend and he wished me a Merry Christmas and friend ed me on Facebook. Also he is not friends with the guy who used him at least through Facebook. I hope to talk more to him on Facebook in the near future.

Also some other great news, I've lost 7 pounds within the past couple months. Shirts that fit my 10 years ago fit me again