2099net wrote:Well, we do tend to lock some duplicate threads, or merge them with others. Sometimes it's hard to catch duplicates.
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As a rule of thumb, is it bad practice to continue a conversation when it has been locked. Surely you can understand this. It sort of ignoring the ruling of the board. It may sound harsh, but once a judgement has been made, it should be stuck to.
I'm sorry if I didn't make it clear that I can totally understand that. To agree with what I said on my first post of this thread, "I'm not looking to continue that particular discussion here; that would totally override the decision to lock the thread." I can understand that, being a moderator, you'd want to make a decision that was consistant with Luke's when it came to the abortion thread.
2099net wrote:Sunset Girl, I wasn't critisising any of your posts, or anybody else's in the second thread (although I still stand by my assessment that the subtitle was needlessly emotive).
Sorry if that's what you got out of my post; I never thought you were for a moment, Netty. I guess I should clarify:
awallaceunc wrote:
Chastising administrators or moderators for it is, in my opinion, uncalled for. It's their job to administrate and moderate, which is what they are doing.
And maybe I made an unfair assumption that what was said there might be directed at me; after all, Aaron said he wasn't directing this at any one member, but this was in a post immediately follwing the one where I said, "And the whole reason that happened in the first place is because <a href="
http://www.ultimatedisney.com/forum/vie ... t=66">this thread</a> was locked before we even had the chance for a real discussion. I understand that homosexuality has been brought up before in threads like this
locked one and that the debate can get quite heated. . ." I did offer an apology if I jumped to conclusions, wondering if I came off too abrasive. But I felt I had a valid point in saying that I didn't find it fair that the thread created specifically for discussion on homosexuality was locked down before we had a chance for a real discussion, and I didn't think it was right to have to shift the discussion over to a thread about Rosie O'Donnell's marriage, only to get chastised for getting off-topic when that's what we were given to start with. Whether or not a moderator is a seasoned veteran, I didn't feel it was a fair decision to jump to conclusions before letting the conversation have a fresh start and tacking it onto a thread already chocked-full of hatred.
But yes Aaron, I'll get over it. I'll be the first to admit I'm much too sensitive and I'm sure I come off as a whiner. I suppose it's my fault for getting too personal; I most certainly didn't mean to get livid or sick to my stomach, but exactly how important are these subjects to
you?
Luke wrote:I personally haven't closed either of the threads, and I probably would have let both go on far longer myself. Nonethless, try to show me what good was coming out of these discussions unless by "good", you mean insults and hateful comments.
I honestly appreciate that, Luke, and I appreciate the fact that you've opened the thread back up for now.
And since you're asking what good was coming out of these discussions, please allow me to say a few things.
I hope I haven't come across as insulting and hateful.
I'm one of those people that needs to reach out and communicate with others; whether or not some of the subject matter is entirely appropriate for a Disney board like this completely out of my hands and is not for someone like me to determine.
But you have no idea how important all this has been for me. I've spent most of my life turning my emotions and opinions inward because of the abuse, but when I've tried posting about my problems on a board specifically for "survivors," I get outcast, ridiculed, and ignored because I was not physically harmed (only emotionally, which I guess doesn't count) and because I was not attacked or raped.
So yes, it may be hard to see or understand but there was some good to come from all of this. Maybe this will come off as especially whiney, but I have no family to turn to anymore, and I grew up under some unfortunate circumstances that kept me from having friends for most of my life. I'm sick of being lonely. I'm tired of having conversations with myself. I've been working hard to get my life back, struggling to come to terms with everything and to be able to talk about it openly.
Being able to do that in these threads as been a productive way to help me heal. I can't be the only one that feels that way, can I?
I love this forum. I love getting to know everyone here and that I get to talk about how much I love Disney without being labeled as immature or weird. But unfortunately, that's exactly how I'm feeling.
Peace out.
