Disney's Divinity wrote:I could be wrong (I haven't watched the movie since its DVD release), but the men were married before they even met one another. The men didn't have to be openly gay, but if they couldn't live without each other they could easily have lived as "single" men.
Whether or not the men were already married to a woman before they first met is besides the point. The point is society drives homosexual men (and women) into heterosexual marriages against their will. Ever heard of 'peer pressure' or 'expectations of society'? You pretend like those pressures either don't exist or aren't a big deal. I would think for homosexual people it *is* a big deal. Society teaches them from a very young age that homosexual behavior is wrong, and a heterosexual marriage is the norm. So if they want to be accepted by society, they better damn well be in a heterosexual marriage. And remember, this film takes place in the 1960's, and they're 'cowboys'. So no, in that environment, they couldn't simply be 'single men', especially because 'single men' was often used as a euphemism for 'gay'.
Disney's Divinity wrote:Obviously they weren't cautious enough--they didn't mind having sex with one another while leading their wives to believe they loved them. I'm sorry, but that's sick and can in no way be called "cautious not to hurt anybody." Just because society is unkind to gays, that's no excuse to hurt two women to create a facade of heterosexuality. Yes, that is selfish, and I can't possibly see it any other way because there honestly is no other way for me to see it.
There is no other way for you to see it, because you don't try. You have already made up your mind, from a very traditional/conservative point of view. Somehow, to you it is mutually exclusive for the gay characters to have a relationship while at the same time loving their wives. The film tries to make clear it's not mutually exclusive. Obviously, they are not in love with their wives, but that doesn't mean they don't love them. (Like I can love a lady friend of mine, yet not being *in* love with her.) The film doesn't give the impression the gay men don't care about their wives. Instead, it gives the impression they do. They try to make their wives happy, even if it goes completly against their own feelings. I call that sacrifice. And there's nothing selfish about pursuing your true love in the meantime.
Disney's Divinity wrote:Despite the fact that they commit adultery? You mean they care for their family, but see no harm in disrespecting their wives, who love them by the way, by pretending to love them and having sex with others at the same time? To me, they did treat their wives like shit and that's simply obvious. It's not narrow-minded at all;
I'm sorry, but yes, it is narrow-minded. Look what you wrote: "they did treat their wives like shit and that's simply obvious". You keep repeating that, despite the fact that is not the way the film presents the gay characters to the audience. You can't see past the adultry in a marriage they were *forced into*. Yes, I find that narrow-minded. And if that insults anyone or makes anyone think I'm 'picking a fight', that's too bad. I'm just pointing out factual inaccuracies here.
Disney's Divinity wrote:I'm at an end to understand how anyone could see it as anything but. I can't forgive the harm they did to their wives because "society was homophobic." So, because society is cruel to them, it suddenly becomes okay for them to be equally cruel to two women they've drawn into marriages?
First of all they aren't "equally cruel" to their wives. Second: yes, they had to. Maybe you don't know any gay people, maybe you don't know the history of violence -both fysically and mentally- towards gays, but it is like it is. And that's mainly what the film is about. The film communicates to its audience that we as a society must stop forcing gay people to behave like heterosexuals, because it hurts a lot of people. I believe you are concerned with the fate of their wives, and I believe that concern is sincere and it is justified. I'm not saying you shouldn't care for their wives. Because the film also clearly portrays the hurting on their part. All I'm sayin is *the film* lays the blame not on the two men, but on society.
Disney's Divinity wrote:It does to me. Because they obviously cared for their wives as well, it just leaves the mind to wonder that, if they treat the wives they "love" this badly, they obviously can't care anymore for each other. And don't be so ridiculously idiotic as to insinuate that they *had to* do anything.
I've already written at lenght about your last remark, so about the love: they did love their wives, they just weren't *in* love with them, but they were in love with each other. Is that concept really so hard to grasp?
Disney's Divinity wrote:The fact that Brokeback caters to a homophobic audience while at the same time furthering stereotypical ideas of selfish, "gay" behavior is more than enough reason for me to call the film "overrated." It does nothing to honestly portray a real, undeniably loving romance between two individuals of the same sex and instead gives us two men, who one could question whether they are even completely homosexual in the first place (furthering the idea that homosexuality is "learned"), who selfishly love one another at the expense of others involved.
The film doesn't really cater to a homophobic audience. A homophobic audience wouldn't even go to see the film in the first place. So there's no money in catering it to them. And again, I don't think the gays in the film are portrayed as 'selfish'. That's only your perception. That's why I said you should like at yourself first instead of pointing to the filmmakers. The film obviously communicates the dilemma of being forced into a heterosexual marriage when in fact you are gay, and the pain that causes to all the people involved. That is not a setback for gays at all. That's an honest portrayal of what has happened and is still happening all over the world, because of society's attitudes toward gays. You, on the other hand, see the film as only having selfish gay characters and you fault them for hurting their wives. So the setback really doesn't occur through the film itself, but through your own reaction, and your own reaction says a lot about your thoughts on the subject.
I don't think it's honest to point at other people ("homophobic audience", the filmmakers) if you have issues with the dilemma presented in the film.