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Don't you just hate it when you are visiting a theme park or tourist attraction and your fun is ruined by annoying tourists who think they can do anything they want? Its even worse when they come to YOUR town and they order everyone around and think that they have the right to ridicule and belittle people.

I am annoyed right now because I just encountered a group of obnoxious, snobbish jerks who think that they can come to OUR town and criticize US.

My hometown is celebrating its annual Native Indian Heritage Festival, one of the most important events in the whole island. Being that its so important it attracts a lot of tourists from all over the island and even the world.

Tonight as the Indian Pageant in which schools create their costumes and enter them in the contest. This is one of the highlights of the whole event so a lot of people try to enjoy it. What happened was that my camera can't take pictures at night because the flash is weak so I try getting closer to the stage in order for the flash to work. I get to a couple, and me being courteous I say "Pardon me, excuse me, coming through". The lady then says "And where are YOU going?". "I'm trying to get closer to the stage, ma'am". She then very rudely says "Excuse me, but I can't let you through because I've been reserving MY place since this afternoon!".

I apologized and move away from them. I eventually find a place where I can take pictures of the girls. The couple just kept being rude about everyone and everything.

Note that this is a big crowd we are talking about, and it becomes hard to try and walk around, especially getting out of it. No matter where you turn the exits are being blocked by people, so you have to move through the crowd. A woman walked by the couple, and the lady started cursing and yelling at the woman for walking in front of her, saying "With so many places to go through, why does she have to go in front of ME?".

The woman got upset, and responded "If you don't like your spot, move!".

I swear I nearly opened my mouth and told them off, but it wasn't worth it, so I just left the place and went back home.

It's annoying because we appreciate people coming to our town and enjoying our stuff, but they can be very disrespectful and ruin everyone else's experience.

Anyone else experience this sort of thing before?

I have had a similair encounters....I have Asperger Syndrome known since I was 9 or 10....so...yes there have been many a strange discouraging encounters that sound like some sorta comical greek tragedy....Through the years....people have told me just to ignore ignorant people....which was hard at the time for me being 13 and having Asperger Syndrome.....but....I think it was around 17 or 18 It finally became easier to ignore the people who think like their butts....and there's a saying that everyone should listen to....

You Can't Fix Stupid (this would be snobby people or people who just won't see the other persons side of view and will not walk out of their protective bubble.....such as people who you described or people like Rush Limbaugh or Glen Beck or the Birthers or some people who think the president is a nazi and how the Ku Klux Klan sounds to me.....complete and utter nonsense)


But at the end of the day....you will have good people too....but there will always be the occasional jerk who thinks they are Fountain of Life where reallly they belong on a a Golden John who need their Sears and Roebuck taken away

pap64 wrote:Don't you just hate it when you are visiting a theme park or tourist attraction and your fun is ruined by annoying tourists who think they can do anything they want? Its even worse when they come to YOUR town and they order everyone around and think that they have the right to ridicule and belittle people.

Sure you can hate it, but it's a little condescending that you're doing the exact same thing to them, albeit not in person:

pap64 wrote: I am annoyed right now because I just encountered a group of obnoxious, snobbish jerks who think that they can come to OUR town and criticize US.

I think if you treat those with respect, they will see their fault and change their attitude. Maybe wishful thinking, but it does help.

Treating someone with respect never guarantees their respect in return, though. Take it from someone who's been bullied all her life: As disneyboy said, there are people whose stupid just can't be fixed. You can be as kind as you want to some people, and they will continue to be ignorant jerks. It's sad, but it's the way things are.

I think, whether they're obnoxious tourists or bullies, that they are frustrated and upset and want to make you frustrated and upset like them. That's their goal, and you can't let them win. You have to try to ignore them or avoid them. If they do get in your face, don't try to punch or gripe at them, that's what they want. Try to get out of their way and let them sizzle in their own mind. It sounds passive, but it's a lot better than getting in a fight physically or orally.

I go by a system I like to call "The Ripple Effect" that is all about the influence a person can have on the surrounding people. Take someone who is mad for instance. They are mad and upset, and they want to take out their frustration on something or someone. They get irked by you for getting in their way, and in turn you get mad or upset and leave with the bad ripple in you. Now you have a choice to make. Are you going to be just like that bully or obnoxious tourist and bark at somone else, making him or her mad and be in a bad mood? Or are you going to let it slide and try to be normal again? Stopping the bad ripple is the best thing you can do for the sake of everyone else. That obnoxious tourist probably contiued the bad ripple by snapping at other people, but you can stop it yourself and spare the other people around you.

It's a shame how some people are mean like that. It's their choice to be who they are. The bully is the embodiment of selfishness. Normally they annoy, harass, and bully others because they are sad about themselves. They think that bullying makes them tougher, but it only make them weaker on the inside.

That's a really good point, IagoZazu. Very wise, indeed.