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Julian Carter wrote:I want to join the discussion but don't know what to say.

Now I feel stupid.

Nether do I. I just sit, watch, nod & look pretty.

(sits and smile to the monitor)

Well...(puts an hunk stereotype voice and look) knights rocks dude!

Well, I just came out to my brother who said he and my parents already know about how I go on certain sites on the internet, which you could probably guess what. He's fine with it, but even though my parents have know for a while they haven't actually talked to me about it, which kind of worries me because I don't know exactly what they think. Still, it's nice to know that one person in my family doesn't mind it.

Yay! Congrats, Flang-Hang!

I'm glad to hear that they took the news very well, Flanger-Hanger. I've heard that sometims a lot of other friends and relatives and parents are sometimes never so understanding about it. If they haven't talked much about it, maybe you can just bring up the subject lightly to them and just ask how they feel about it to discuss with them.

I've told pretty much a majority of my friends so far now, but I'm still a little bit nervous about my parents since they're kind of conservative people and what their reaction will be. I'm thinking of maybe heading down to the GLBT Center here at my campus to ask for any help with advice on it. I just hope they'll be understanding if I get the chance to tell them this weekend.

Congratulations Flag-Hanger!!
Extra big hug for you!
Now...let's hope that those sites aren't as..."demonstrative" as the straight ones tend to be

PrincePhilipFan:
As I said some post ago, follow a prince's role: Be brave and proud of who you are because son, if you're not proud of yourself no one will be. So mighty prince take the sword of bravery and a shield of courage and face your biggest fear. Trust in yourself and your greatest advantage in this task:
The love of your parents and return triumphant, great warrior!
And also a big hug for ya!

That's for the interhugs (hugs one receives while reading the internet, it's a new word I made up), but I'm still really anxious because I don't know what my parents think. They might be ok with it, but the might just be holding back their real opinion, and I wont be able to ask them what they think until they get back from their trip. It's gonna be a rough week, but all your support is very much welcome.

Congratulations, Flanger-Hanger! It's great knowing that you have support from your friends and family. I'll pray for the whole ordeal with your folks to go well.

Now that I've got basically all of my friends out of the way, it's time to tell my parents. I know that it won't change anything and that they'll love me just the same, but the thought of telling them still scares the crap out of me. But the the clock is ticking...

I really hope it goes over well too, Flanger-Hanger. I hope they'll be understanding about and get to know how they feel.

Prince Ali wrote:

I know that it won't change anything and that they'll love me just the same, but the thought of telling them still scares the crap out of me. But the the clock is ticking...

Sounds like you and me are in the same boat. I have a feeling that mine will be understanding hopefully, but just the thought really scares me and what their initial reaction might be.

I just hope when you get the chance to tell them that they'll just the same as before like you said.

Isidour wrote:

As I said some post ago, follow a prince's role: Be brave and proud of who you are because son, if you're not proud of yourself no one will be. So mighty prince take the sword of bravery and a shield of courage and face your biggest fear. Trust in yourself and your greatest advantage in this task: The love of your parents and return triumphant, great warrior! And also a big hug for ya!

Thank you so much for the advice and the hug! I'll try to remember that when I tell them. I'm up here at campus now for the week, but when I head home for the weekend, I'm going to try to make it a point of telling them. Thank you so much again for the advice and encouragement!

Flanger-Hanger wrote:

Prudence wrote: Eh?

(My intellectually stimulatory typing; let me show you it. That last sentence was sarcasm, in case this wasn't obvious.)

I was just mentioning that I like Prudence too. I realized this after I typed the comment about you, and I guess it does look weird. If I offended you, I am sorry.

Pssshaw, it takes a great deal more than that to offend me. If you had said, "I hate Prudence and everything about her; she is the ugliest looking character I have ever seen and she should be placed in an electric chair for being so annoying! Anyone that likes her needs a good punch in the face!" then I probably wouldn't be too pleased with you.
But no, I was just confused as to what the "or me" part meant.

Anyway, back on topic. For those who don't know or have forgotten, I am only eighteen. I moved out of my parents' home in May of last year, and while I am financially independent from them (and have technically been so for years before 2007), I still have never had the bollocks to officially come out of the closet to my very right-wing, conservative parents. In fact, I may never tell them. If the subject comes up, I care not if a good 90% of the world knows of my sexual orientation (especially since I think nearly all of us are at least a little bisexual, whether we admit it to even our own minds or not), but it would only cause needless drama and absurd, pointless sadness to so much as directly tell my parents. If they ever learn through other means, I will obviously speak with them on the matter. If and when that day occurs, I will undoubtedly be completely disinherited. That doesn't matter to me as much as it perhaps would, had circumstances been different. I think I was technically disinherited when I was born, for better or for worse. All the finances I have, I earned myself and I wouldn't have it any other way.

At any rate, to those who lack the financial stability and/or the emotional stability, I would advise you to place one foot in the closest and one foot out. What lousy advice.

Thanks for the advice, Prudence.

As for myself, I'm still some financially dependent on my parents for my college tuition, and I'm still very close to my family (I head home every weekend and for vacation breaks and the summer). Even though I'm worried I might upset them, I think I had probably better tell them now since I'm still close with them, and want to be open about it. Also I've kept these feelings and feel like a part of myself inside so long and secret, I think it's best if I just come out of it now.

As I mentioned before, pretty much, my love for my girlfriend is like the last thread I have of heterosexuality/bisexuality, since she really is the only girl I've been in a relationship with, or felt so strongly attracted to before. A majority of my other crushes have been for other male friends, with only like one other girl I knew in high school. If for some reason our relationship should ever end, more than likely I'll be just completely gay since I have had no other desire to be in a relationship with another girl or felt strongly attracted to other than in an observational sense. I think it's best that if our relationship doesn't evenutally work out in the long run, I tell my parents now rather than just abruptly come home one day with a boyfriend. I think it's best I probably tell them now, in case that happens and causes a huge shock to their system.

I just want to say that you all are brave- the biggest announcements of my life weren't things my family would disown me over (taking a semester off after high school & moving to Florida)- it takes guts to even come out to your friends, I'm sure, so I applaud you all! I probably won't ever be able to fully relate to what you go through as far as having to make a big announcement (but, in my opinion, it shouldn't have to be a big announcement that you need to brace people for- it shouldn't be a big deal, IMO). But, good for you all!

That's my $0.02!

Flanger-Hanger wrote:Well, I just came out to my brother who said he and my parents already know about how I go on certain sites on the internet, which you could probably guess what.

Geordie Georgie: "Every 38 minutes a Disney fan comes out to his or her family with the declaration 'I'm a Disney Fan!' and learns that they already knew about it! This unnerves them as they had already set up a big declaration which is now wasted since the secret wasn't really a secret anymore! We need to raise up funds to help them at a special Disney clinic. If you don't believe me then log on to the website http://www.awesome-people-who-like-Disn ... cret.co.uk "



Albert

Flanger-Hanger wrote:Well, I just came out to my brother who said he and my parents already know about how I go on certain sites on the internet, which you could probably guess what.

This worries me. How did they know? Isn't it a breach of your privacy?

Face palm, Albert. Face palm.

Anyway getting back to you Julian, they had to go on my computer because the one they use was broken. It's not technically mine but I'm the one who basically always uses it. 99% of the time everyone else doesn't. But it was required that they go on it for their own purposes, such as checking email. They didn't actually go on the sites but they saw the names show up in the browser thing, Nor did they intend to look up which kinds of sites I go on (whenever they see me use it I'm always on Disney related sites like UD, miceage, wdwmagic etc.). So ya, lesson learned, use erase site history more often.

blackcauldron85 wrote:(but, in my opinion, it shouldn't have to be a big announcement that you need to brace people for- it shouldn't be a big deal, IMO).

I agree completely! That's what's ticking me off about this whole situation. There shouldn't be anything to worry about!

Bleh. But what can ya' do, right?

So I told my parents last night, and they're completely cool with it. They told me that I'm their son, that they love me just the same, and that it doesn't change a thing. And afterward, no lie, we talked about <i>Big Brother</i>. They literally took it like it was nothing, which means a lot to me.

I love my parents!

Glad to hear the good news Ali! I just wish society as a whole was more like your parents in terms of accepting gays.

That's so fantastic, Ali! Congrats!

Prince Ali wrote:I told...stuff... They told me that I'm their son, that they love me just the same, and that it doesn't change a thing.

Rigth-O For them!!!!!!
So true what they told and please tell your parents that they really, at least for this, they have an excellent judgment!