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Disney's Divinity wrote:I hate straight guys who go to gay bars. I'm sure if they think a little, that's the last place they want to get drunk at.

I don't think it's bad if they are with their gay friends. I gets weird when i'ts just a group of straight couples who want to see some "different" entertainment. They always seem to win the best chest/ass contests though.

Flanger-Hanger wrote:They always seem to win the best chest/ass contests though.

The world is so unfair.

Disney's Divinity wrote:

Flanger-Hanger wrote:They always seem to win the best chest/ass contests though.

The world is so unfair.

Given the embarassment they're put through in the process, I feel it's partly for compensation reasons.

Where was this Gay Avenger when the creepy dude at the gay bar started groping me?

enigmawing wrote:Where was this Gay Avenger when the creepy dude at the gay bar started groping me?

Sorry, that must have been my night off!

And now a request for advice from other members of UD's very own gay community (aka 90% of the current forum regulars ): how are you all about making gay friends? Of course, I wouldn't trade my straight friends (male and female) for the world, but I would like to start meeting more gay/bi guys. I had my first gay club experience with some straight female friends last Friday, but I was mainly hanging with them, and I didn't get any contact details off any of the guys I did meet (mind you, most people there were on the inebriated side ). I'm even thinking of taking up indoor rock climbing as I know there's a gay men's outdoor activities society round where I live (the only real outdoor activities I do are cycling and snow sports).

Can't offer you advice, seeing as I'm currently the only gay in the village. But I'm moving to Amsterdam within two months and my friends already living there have been very desperate to take me clubbing, so I suppose my situation will change.

I imagine it's a combination of looking in the right places and finding ways for yourself to become comfortable there.

PatrickvD wrote:Can't offer you advice, seeing as I'm currently the only gay in the village. But I'm moving to Amsterdam within two months and my friends already living there have been very desperate to take me clubbing, so I suppose my situation will change.

I imagine it's a combination of looking in the right places and finding ways for yourself to become comfortable there.

Tell me about it. My hometown, which is around a half hour drive out of Manchester, isn't exactly what you'd call a gay capital. I'm currently in Manchester, though, which is probably the "gayest" place in the UK behind London and Brighton. Anyway, I suppose it still is early days. Let's just wait and see.

Yeah, most of my friends are straight girls (and a few lesbians). I suppose the best way to meet gay friends is to join a LGBT group possibly or a gym? (Stereotypes galore! )? Otherwise it's kind of the luck of the draw. From my experience, most people at bars are only looking for short-term options. I've thought about how to get gay friends, too, because I suppose it would be nice to have someone to talk about the same issues/etc., but no solution. For myself, I think I prefer having girl friends anyway. No threats.

Just wanted to post that the Boy Scouts will now allow openly gay scouts into their organization. Gay troop leaders are still banned though, but the news is still encouraging.

Just saw Behind The Candelabra. Michael Douglas and Matt Damon were fantastic!

Don't ask me about making gay friends. Most of my friends PERIOD are on the internet thanks to my social awkwardness, but I don't really feel comfortably living openly gay here in this crappy small KY town I'm in, so I don't even bother. I'm hoping within five years I'm living in Boston - I have a cousin there I could stay with until I could get situated on my own, and I already have a very special friend up there I'd love to spend some time with. (And no, he's not special like a boyfriend. I mean, I want most of the benefits that come with that - time together, cuddles, kisses, hanging out, and...*ahem*...but neither of us want the boyfriend title because he's in an open relationship with a man who lives on the other side of the country and I just don't feel like I want to take a perfectly good friendship and slap the label of "boyfriend" on it.) Hopefully, if I move to Boston where very few people know me and the ones who do accept me, I'll become a lot more comfortable making friends, LGBT or straight. I'd like to have a variety of friends - I think it'd make me a very well-rounded person and open me up to experiences I wouldn't have otherwise.

I have recently come out to three friends from high school. This is kinda big - my school was conservative Christian. All three have been very kind and supportive and none of them have preached to me or anything.

Wonderlicious wrote:

enigmawing wrote:Where was this Gay Avenger when the creepy dude at the gay bar started groping me?

Sorry, that must have been my night off!

You owe me.

my chicken is infected wrote: I have recently come out to three friends from high school. This is kinda big - my school was conservative Christian. All three have been very kind and supportive and none of them have preached to me or anything.

Congratulations! I've found coming out to friends was harder to do than family. Might be because I don't care as much about my family, so their possible negative reactions didn't worry me as much.

my chicken is infected wrote:Don't ask me about making gay friends. Most of my friends PERIOD are on the internet thanks to my social awkwardness, but I don't really feel comfortably living openly gay here in this crappy small KY town I'm in, so I don't even bother. I'm hoping within five years I'm living in Boston - I have a cousin there I could stay with until I could get situated on my own, and I already have a very special friend up there I'd love to spend some time with. (And no, he's not special like a boyfriend. I mean, I want most of the benefits that come with that - time together, cuddles, kisses, hanging out, and...*ahem*...but neither of us want the boyfriend title because he's in an open relationship with a man who lives on the other side of the country and I just don't feel like I want to take a perfectly good friendship and slap the label of "boyfriend" on it.) Hopefully, if I move to Boston where very few people know me and the ones who do accept me, I'll become a lot more comfortable making friends, LGBT or straight. I'd like to have a variety of friends - I think it'd make me a very well-rounded person and open me up to experiences I wouldn't have otherwise.

Move to Boston. It's swell. I've been living there for almost six years now and it's hard to imagine living anywhere else.

I came out when I lived in Boston. It was very gay friendly then; it must be 10 times more so now! There were some great clubs there where I met lots of guys and started my "family". Boston will always be very special to me.

If I were to ever ditch the UK for the USA, I've decided that I would probably want to live in Boston (or Southern California - complete opposite ends of the country, I know... ). I went to Boston as part of a school trip in what would be the British equivalent of the American high school senior year (that would have been in 2006), and I really liked the feel of the place. The people seemed friendly, and it seemed more like a British or European city than a North American city in some ways. Of course, I didn't experience any of the gay side, but based on the fact that Massachusetts is quite a liberal state and was one of the first states to legalise gay marriage, I assumed that Boston would be a cool place to be gay. But as I've already implied, I think I wouldn't mind living in Boston even if I weren't gay, as it's just a cool place.

Boston is where my cousin and her husband chose to move after escaping from Houston. They wanted to be where there were more liberals and fewer 100-degree days.

Well, I can't speak for the 100 degree days (this past weekend was RIDICULOUS), but it's a very liberal city in many ways and yet weirdly puritanical in others (seriously, good luck finding a place to eat that's open past 10 PM in some neighborhoods). It is very gay friendly, and I've never felt uncomfortable holding another guy's hand or anything in the area. The neighborhood I live in also has a really big gay population, which is one of the many perks.

tl;dr, everyone should move to Boston.

Polling around the world: support for gay people:

http://www.pewglobal.org/2013/06/04/the ... sexuality/