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For many, a divorce ends up being a good thing. It's hard to see at first, but eventually as you move on, you find out it was a good thing. My boyfriend is working on divorce papers. He and his ex had good times, he won't deny that. He loved her once, but things went sour and he kicked her out. But their separation meant, he found me and both of us are very happy. You'll find someone great one day, when you least expect it and are ready.

blackcauldron85 wrote:Uhh, I think that by having a picture with you and a girl, it might reduce your chances of a girl wanting to contact you...? I could be wrong. I mean, I'll be honest, I find it a little weird, sure, because I'm not the one on the dating site, but, um, if you feel that you need the whole picture in your profile, then, um, maybe it's okay...? Haha, awkward. Nothing against you, of course. <3

Maybe he's looking for a threesome?

blackcauldron85 wrote:And, no porn.

Hmmm... strange...

I think that it'll end up being a good thing, Siren... it's awkward, though. Two nights ago, he brought over some things (the microwave...since the apartment didn't come with one, and he says that he doesn't know how I'll survive on my pay, he gave me his and he'll buy a new one, and he brought my desk and TV stand), and then last night my friend was over, and he called asking if he could stop by with more of my things. My friend said that he probably wants to see me...my friend said that she was going to go get food, to leave the two of us alone, and after he brought my things in, he was sitting on my bed, petting my dog...and then I said that it was awkward. Then he said, "Okay, Oliver, this might be the last time I see you," or something... And when he came over the two times, he's been updating me on his family...his brother's dog died, his aunt and uncle are coming down...it's awkward. I do care about those people, but I'm not a part of the family anymore. Quite strange. But I think that it'll be good for us. He said two nights ago, "Our relationship wasn't very good, was it?"...so he's not completely delusional...

Goliath wrote:

blackcauldron85 wrote:Uhh, I think that by having a picture with you and a girl, it might reduce your chances of a girl wanting to contact you...? I could be wrong. I mean, I'll be honest, I find it a little weird, sure, because I'm not the one on the dating site, but, um, if you feel that you need the whole picture in your profile, then, um, maybe it's okay...? Haha, awkward. Nothing against you, of course. <3

Maybe he's looking for a threesome?

I just like that picture, lol... you guys assume too much !

Jack Skellington wrote:

Goliath wrote:Maybe he's looking for a threesome?

I just like that picture, lol... you guys assume too much !

It's called 'projection'...

Amy I'm actually thinking of changing my university, I wanna be at the University of Central Florida, I'm applying now. Guess you might not need Skype to stay in touch.

Hey! So you're not worried about your parents getting upset if you move here?!?!

They might, but it's about me, they're not the ones that should be upset.

Hey Amy, come visit me in the chat room sometime when your computer works properly!

Congrats on all of this, Amy! Maybe once you're settled into your apartment I can come over for a Disney movie night! Message me on Facebook and give me the details!

Mark, I don't think my computer will work properly...we can always email!

Chris- thanks, and will do!

blackcauldron85 wrote:Mark, I don't think my computer will work properly...we can always email!

You can always send me mail. I thought I had given you my e-mail adress in a PM. If not, send me a message. I will not reveal my adress on the forum.

I haven't had much time to even lurk on UD lately, but I do think about this place often!!! Mason's engagement brought me back this morning, but I figured I would post in this thread again.

Since November, I've been in and out of relationships, just like high school. Nothing too serious...until a certain someone. We've always just gotten along really well, we're very comfortable together, we have a great time. Early on, he told me he got accepted to a school in North Carolina, and I was happy for him and sad at the same time, obviously. At first I was just trying to have everything be as it was, but as time went on, I was dwelling on it more. I eventually broke up with him because he had said the day he told me he would be moving that he doesn't do long distance relationships, and I guess I took that as he wouldn't want to be with me, which wasn't the case.

Then we got back together, and it's been great. He moved yesterday, and I was so miserable, but like with everything for me, I eventually accept it (I'm a quick healer), but I've never been more determined in my life...I applied to a few jobs last night in the Charlotte area, and I've had a contact there at a non-profit who has been shopping my resume around his organization, but he even just emailed me this morning saying that there aren't any full-time positions that match my skills, but that he's still trying to get someone interested in me for a temp. position.

Basically, besides just applying to jobs, I'm trying to network. I've already contacted Aaron, but if any of you have any contacts in North Carolina, maybe I could send you my resume and you could send it to them, or I could just get their contact info from you. I'm so serious about moving- I could even drive up after work on any Tuesday for a Wednesday interview (I have Wednesdays off). But a phone interview would make more sense. But if any of you even know a friend of a friend of a friend in North Carolina (particularly the Charlotte area, but I wouldn't mind living a little further away), please please please let me know! I do have some friends up in NC, and one (he's one half of a couple I know there) said that they're definitely willing to help me out, even if they don't necessarily know that many people- they moved last year)...

Essentially I'm looking for either a job in a non-profit or retail assistant managing or something similar, but I would do secretary or front desk or whatever...I make $8 an hour now, and there's pretty much no hope for moving up where I'm at, plus I just want to get out of Orlando. Plus my parents are moving down here...eeeek. Plus I want to be with the guy so bad...

Thank you!

Amy, I have only good wishes for you, but after getting out of a long-term relationship (i.e. marriage) such a short time ago, I wonder if it's the best idea to move for a guy. I know you married young, but now you have a chance to really figure yourself out without being part of a "we." If <b><i>you</b></i> want to move to NC because you like it there, that's one thing. But if you want to move there so that <b><i>we</i></b> can be together, that's a different story altogether. You've probably already heard this from other people, so I won't say any more.

Good luck, whatever you decide!

I wish I had some friends to refer you to but I don't know anyone in that part of the country. But it's good that you know people in the area already, that's a big help when you're set on moving. And I can totally understand wanting to get away from where you're at . . . in my case, moving out of the midwest and making a fresh start was the best thing I could have done for myself.

You deserve to be happy and I hope all goes well, wherever you do end up.

Renata- that's basically what my mom said, too. I don't see relationships this way...maybe that's a flaw on my part, I don't know. But I know that I don't want to be without this guy...and I mean, he basically said it's not healthy to uproot my life just for him, but if I find a job and all and I want to move. And he knows that I don't want to stay in Orlando anyway. I would be getting my own apartment anyway, and I mean, any job is going to be better than the one I have now- it has no room for growth and I make $8 an hour with a college degree, you know? I think that I don't have much to lose. Thanks

EW- thanks! I think a fresh start would be good for me. I think it wouldn't be a bad opportunity, especially since I really don't have much going on here in Florida anymore.

Strangely, I had just thought about you a day or so ago when I was on here, and thought, "Another one bites the dust, I guess."

Anyway, it sounds like it's going great for you. Honestly, I would feel the same about moving. If you don't have any reason to stay in one place, there's no wrong in going away. Especially if the relationship is working, why not? (Also, I wish I could help with a job if I knew anyone, but I live about a couple of hours away from Charlotte, so... Hope someone else might be able to help you out.)

Amy, I'm sad we've kind of lost touch the past year, but I hope you know that I wish all the best for you!

Question, though... what about Harry and Sally?!

PeterPanfan wrote:Amy, I'm sad we've kind of lost touch the past year, but I hope you know that I wish all the best for you!

Question, though... what about Harry and Sally?!

Can't believe I missed this last November. Must have been one of my forum absences. I am quite stunned to hear of the divorce, Amy. I haven't used the UD chatroom in years, so I never found out you were having marriage problems. I'll admit I remember reading something on the forum in which you hinted at your unhappinness. You wrote something about your husband, and there seemed to be a sense of disillusionment in your writing. Back then I probably thought that you were having a bad day or that perhaps your marriage was going through a sour spot (like all marriages do at some point or another).

It's strange. I recall seeing pictures of you and your husband on a bench in what seemed to be a garden or park and thinking that you two look sweet together. It's sad it no longer is that way.

Are you still friends with your ex?

I hope you're coping well on your own now.

Take care.